What does this mean???
After 6 yrs of putting up w/exwife unfair treatment towards my husband, my husband finally told her at son's soccer game that she needs to coordinate/agree on activities or anything to do w/son for that matter from now on. Ex wife then complained that father does not participate in anything son does, how can he when he gets the schedule the same day or a day before (no time to reschedule his work). Ex wife walked off.
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I'm not real sure.
Just seems to me she wants to constantly look like the better parent. She has to know in advance about all the things he is in or has coming up. There is no excuse for that.
My hubby's ex does that too. It nerves me to know end. Just the other day (Sat) the daughter calls Friday evening mom has to work you have to take me to find my classes tomorrow, I have to be there by 9am.. I asked him so how come noone told you before then. She knew for a week and never mentioned it to my hubby (the ex). And I mean she calls all the time.. Oops I guess that just slipped her mind.
Always two steps ahead
May be a good idea to notify school and ask for all mailings to be duplicated to the father's address too.
Also ask stepson to get 2 of everything and just call dad to let him know to pick it up.
Eliminate the middle man or in this case evil witch.
Thanks for your input,
Thanks for your input, unfortunately the school office does not mail stuff out, costs too much. Teachers put school papers in child's folder, & because child resides w/mother, we never see papers. The other stuff we get late is on extra curricular activities that mom signs up for w/out my husband's say in it. She decides whatever and expects us to follow schedule to take son to practices & games. Son is signed up for 2 sports from Mon-Sun. We didn't agree on that.
-happy mom
If you weren't asked......
If biomom didn't ask if it was ok or run the schedule of events past you guys first, then you can't be expected to take stepson to these activities if you have other plans. However, is there any way that you can get a schedule from the soccer coach? My husband is a soccer coach and we deal with split families all of the time(us included). A lot of the time we have to give a schedule to each parent. I would go around the ex and try and talk to the people in charge of the activities. I'm sure they have dealt with situations like that before.
Dawn
Dawn...
Hi, ex do give us the schedule for soccer & football but the thing of it is, she doesn't even discuss the issue w/signing up the son in the first place, he has no say as to what activities he would prefer son to do. Or even have a say on which activities are okay and to work out the schedule so that it is not every day that son goes to practice. Mon thru Sun is a bit much for a 10 yr old, especially when he hates to do his homework. I myself think that his school work needs to be focused on more than sports at this time because he hates doing his homework. Mother does not see that at all, he is with her most of the time.
-happy mom
Happy Mom
You're right about that! If he can't get the homework done, then the extra stuff gets cut.
Yes, that seems like too many activities if it is Mon. thru Sun. We try to keep stepson in one thing at a time. However, if he has homework that is unfinished, he will miss practice. You have to draw the line somewhere.
School work comes first ALWAYS!!
Dawn
Since I have no say in
Since I have no say in stepson's life...I pretty much don't care what his mother does w/her own child. Practice & games Mon-Sun, so be it, as long as I'm not taking him to those things. The sickening thing is that mom wants to send him to private school so he can be serious about his work, how can he when he got all those activities to attend & by the time child gets home it is 7pm, takes a bath and then what? Study??? I don't think so, too tired from waking up at 6am then gets drop off at school at 7am and then gets picked up at 5pm. Private school is much harder and more work....HELLO he can't even handle reg school work. I'm just glad I'm not the child. I think mom is bored & has nothing to do on the weekends so she signs up the child so she can keep herself occupied by going to the games.
-happy mom