SD14 Newest Stunt
My SD14, went camping with a friend while she had visitation with her BM this weekend. The only problem is her father told her she wasn't allowed to go and she told him that was OK because the trip was off anyway. So when she gets to her BM's she acts like her Dad said OK. (The people she went with aren't very stable...the dad is a violent drunk, etc., thus the reason she couldn't go.)
When she found out she was grounded she acted like she could care less. When her Dad explained the ramifications of her actions and took away her phone and laptop and privileges for 2 weeks, she acted smug. She openly stated that she did nothing wrong, turned her nose up and stomped off to her room.
He calmed down and tried to talk to her again and she still wouldn't accept that she was in the wrong, so he spanked her like a 5 year old. It was a good old fashioned spanking and you have to do alot of push him to that point. She is now extremly remorseful and the only thing bruised is her pride.
In the words of my Mom, "I spanked my kids and they've never been to jail", a spanking not a beating never hurt anyone.
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how embarrassing to have to
how embarrassing to have to get spanked at 14.
Wow! Good for DH...I cannot
Wow! Good for DH...I cannot stand it when the kids play dumb and do what they want.
I think a good old spanking is just fine!
If you ask me we need more
If you ask me we need more dad's like your DH on this board, I would bet money that all these skids would be FAR better behaved than they are and half of the divorces and splits wouldnt happen!
Good old fashion spanking!
Good old fashion spanking! Now that's what I'm talking about! At 14 I'm sure her pride got that one. I love it. I wish DH would spank SD12. He says she's too old for that now. My BS12 may be almost taller than me but he doesn't cross me because I spanked him when he needed it and he knows that that option is always on the table
She wouldn't have even pulled
She wouldn't have even pulled this stunt if he'd have spanked her long ago, but he was too busy being manipulated by a child who has learned from an addict how to use people. Each time I pointed it out, I was blowing things out of proportion. Her leaving for a weekend without his permission and pulling the wool over her BM's eyes was had made him see how out of control and to what degree she is willnig to push things.
So who's going to be the
So who's going to be the blame when she pops up pregnant or worse?? I don't care what anyone says I certainly did not "spare the rod" when it came or comes to my son. My parents didn't and we all turned out better than just ok. I deal with chicks here at work practicing all that new age crap, time out, talking too, whatever I bet my kid never showed out on me. I also would tell any babysitter (there weren't many) that if he acted up they could spank him. I would say this in front of him so he knew I meant business.
Her BM didn't want to be the
Her BM didn't want to be the bad guy so she left the decision of her going on the camping trip up to her father, even though it was BM's weekend. SD14 then allowed her BM to think her approved it therefore committing a lie of omission.
The spanking didn't hurt her one bit. She lied to one parent, defied the other, spent the weekend with an abusive drunk, put herself at risk, etc and then acted pretty smug and arrogant when she was caught.
Consider the spanking shock therapy, it shocked her back into realizing she's 14 and does not make her own decisions. He gave her every opportunity to appologize and be remorseful...she brought that spanking on herself.
She was fully clothed and it
She was fully clothed and it was pretty quick and to the point...so as far as I'm concerned, her BM and her Dad she got it easy and there was nothing disgusting about it. By the way, I received my last spanking at 17 for arguing with my sister. We got a belt, not a few swats on the backside.
What did your DH expect?
What did your DH expect? Parents not communicating and a 14 yr old getting her own way.
In future he should make an effort to let his ex know his decision and then it is on her what happens.
The girl is 14. Of course she played each parent against the other. My s/sons learnt this about 3 mths into their parents divorce. Even if her father had told her mother 'No, I say no." and her mother blamed her father she would still not be going.
Look I was an abused child
Look I was an abused child and honestly my Dad crossed the line, but a spanking is minor and gets the point across. Good for him....