Wow this disengage is working
I cannot believe my SS can be soooo self -center , I don't know if anybody read my POST earlier when I first started coming to this WEBSITE , but I've been married for 22 years. This year i started to disengaged from my stepkids because they are so disrespectful to me and DH... It all started last for my DH 60 birthday party. me and my husband went back to church just for everything and GOD fulfilled the emptyness I had in my heart from losing my daughter (2000) from a Medical Desiese. and so on. We both did our confirmation together which was so beautiful.. We also invited his MOM to , at the end of the confirmation when it was over, we walk to the back of the church, to my amazement his Mother crying ? I thought because she was happy that we did our confirmation? I went to go hug her and she said I needed to REPENT because I had alot to repent for?? She said the Grand KIds misses thier GF and how dare me take that away. ??? I said are you talking to me she said YES I'M, talking to you!!! I just look at her and walk away from her. I told my DH what was she talking about ??? She believes all the lies from her adult grandkids??? Next day I go have lunch with a friend I called DH just to check up on him and he Told me his Son email him ? this is from his son
(SS)- You had communion n confirmation today and didn't invite me. What the hell is wrong with you? You wife has you confused. You think God is gonna save you from you bull shit you wife is doing. Please you got another thing comeing too you. . You guys both lost your dam mind. I bet you wife is real happy now she dont have any kids and she wants you too be that way too!!!!!!!!!!!! Well I hope your happy now!!!!!! I will let the kids know you forgot about them now.
responed from(DH) You are so wrong that is all I can say,I think of my grand kids every minute, your unwillingness to forgive is what is making the situation worse,telling the kids I forgot about them another error on your part.
Wow is that crazy... is my disengaging finally getting to him ??? or them !!!
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I honestly think adult s-kids
I honestly think adult s-kids can be worse than little ones, even though I know they have their challenges, too. I'm trying to disengage from my adult s-kids as well. It can be very hard, especially when you started out with good intentions for a peaceful blended family. But you do what you have to do to preserve your sanity. Hopefully your husband will continue to be supportive and your SS's selfish, self-pitying behavior will only be spotlighted, making your husband realize why you've had to disengage as you have. Chances are, the s-kids won't change if they are already adults. If they can't be civil and conduct themselves as anyone in polite society should, then it's their loss and they need to realize the consequences of their actions. Being a united front with your husband is essential for that and I pray that will continue to be the case for you. As time goes by, they will adjust and maybe even come around (but don't hold your breath) and if they don't, it's on them, not you. You just have to live your life with your husband and be as happy as you can; you know you've done all the right things and done your best. You can disenage with a completely clear conscience; the ball is in their court. Best of luck to you.
TweetyPie- Well Thank You !
TweetyPie- Well Thank You ! Yes I always have the best intentions in MIND , but I feel they are never satified ? no matter what happens. More and more I can see the light, and I'm starting feel comfortable with my choices.This Website is great for people like me. Just when you think you have it all figure out something always happens ,but you get stronger and stronger each time !