So my wife and I have been married for a few months now. We have a SD5, full custody, from her previous marriage. I don't have too many complaints about SD. She's a pretty good kid and my wife is an excellent mother. We have just started trying for a child of our own, too.

My wife is in her early 30's and I'm in my late 20's. What's left me really perplexed the past few months is the feeling that she just doesn't really care about the significance of the things we do together because she has already done it all in her first marriage. Allow me to list what I mean:

- We had a great wedding, but all I heard about from her relatives was her last wedding (and what an ass BF is). We used a photographer that was also one of her relatives and my family was only in a total of 3 of the couple hundred photographs taken. She didn't seem to care.

- She's forgotten my birthday 2 years in a row. Petty, I know. But did she ever forget her first hubby's birthday?

- I'm elated about finally becoming a biological father. She seems to shrug off everything about this. My mother asked her if she could plan a baby shower when the time comes. My wife's response? "Nah, I'm not doing one this time."

- She will spend a half-hour, at least, going on about her work day but will play on her phone while I tell her about mine for more than 5 mins.

- She seems to think that sex cures everything. I suppose for some guys it does, but not me. Whenever she does something that pisses me off, she will automatically try to fix it by suggesting we just go to the bedroom.

- My parents pulled out all the stops the past few holidays to make sure SD5 had a great time. They really treated her like their own grandchild. Of course, there hasn't been so much as a thank you from my wife for this. My parents requested that SD5 come over to their house so my niece can have someone to play with for a couple hours. My wife told her mother this, who had already made plans with SD5 an hour before, and her mother stated "Oh whatever. They're not even her real grandparents."

- I am not included in the decisions made about SD5. School fieldtrips, weekend plans, etc. are brought to me days after the fact or minutes before they take place.

And here's the best for last:

- My wife's ex-husband, SD5's BF, lives out of state. He ran off because he had warrants and has refused to pay child support for years. Two weeks ago, he called my wife out of nowhere and asked, if he payed for it and contributed with child support, if we would all take a weekend trip to his place so that he can see his daughter. Nevermind the fact that I don't have time for such things, he should drive here himself if he wants to see his daughter. But the funny things was that my wife did not immediately say no. She told him that she would let him know after she talked to me about it. I said not only no, but HELL NO! She later apologized for not immediately saying no to the proposition.

Sorry if this is too long to read. I just feel like my wife thinks of me as, at best, a walking ATM that also supplies sperm, or, at worst, her girlfriend/BFF that is there just for a shoulder to cry on every once in awhile.