Last week we heard from bm#1 for the first time since Feb. Dh meets her at a McDonalds after ss's therapist appt, as bm said she was in the area for a job interview. She shows up (according to Dh, I wasn't there) looking an absolute mess. Crazy messy hair, old ass tshirts, and dirty jeans. So can pretty much guarentee she didn't get whatever job she was interviewing for, if there even was an interview. But she also shows up with her two older sons, 16 and 19, the 19 yr olds Gf, and her 18 month old son (thankfully not the 19yr old kid biologically). All in a three seat pick up truck. 4 adults and a toddler, so no one (even the baby) was in a seat belt.

They all Hung out for about an hour so they could spend time with ss10. Half brother 19 dropped out of hs years ago, and is still unemployed. Half brother 16 is apparently not to far behind. Other kids biodad gave the younger one back to bm a month ago. He's now.missed 10 school days in a row, including the week of FCAT testing. You know, the testing he has to pass to be promoted to the next grade. They all were laughing about it. How they will both be drop outs (great precident for SS, as he struggles with school and motivation already). Way to go bm.

While they were there the little toddler was super fussy and kept grabbing at the empty chicken nuggets containers on the table that SS ate before they got there. Mom kept saying.... I know you are hungry, but we will feed you later..... And trying to distract the baby. Bm cracks a joke about how she's not the rich grandma, that's the other grandma. Between the 4 adult there, they could not scrape together a dollar to get this kid some chicken nuggets. Dh ended up buying the baby a 20 piece of nuggets, and the 4 of them let the baby have two, and ate the rest themselves, without even a thank you. What kind of mother takes her baby out for hours, brings no snacks, no drinks,and no money to get them.... And is just ok with your kid being hungry?

Bm also felt ballsy enough to tell Dh that SS needed a cell phone, and that she will talk to her mom and see about getting him one. Yes, these 4 adult that didn't have $1 to feed the baby all had smart phones that they were playing with while the baby screamed. Bm has no money to pay her child support, and owes over 15 grand in arrears, but she's allegedly going to get SS a cell phone and plan. Rriigghhhttt, bm.... I'll hold my breathe waiting for that one.

I can only imagine ss's life had he been left with her.

As for SD, PITA as usual all weekend. Complete and utter ass all Saturday while Dh is at work. Sat night Dh get really really sick, and was up all night with violent vomitting and diarrhea. So he stayed home from work on Sunday. He slept most of the morning (until about 11), and the skids were once again loud and unruley and they get sent to their rooms so Dh could sleep.

When Dh woke up I tell him I have to go grocery shopping, and that the kids were confined to their rooms and he could let them out if he saw fit. His response was - why, so they can annoy me?. Had to laugh at that one.

So after I get back, we have lunch and the skids are out of their rooms. Dh notices that SD sounds like she's coughing up a lung, and asks me if she's getting sick. I say no, and explain that she once again broke the rules yesterday and went batshit-crazy on the milk yesterday (sd has asthma and milk makes it flare up and she gets overwelmed with phlem) and drank 2/3 of a gallon while I was doing housework...... AND she was all over the cat that morning despite repeated correction and warnings to get away from the cat ( she is allergic to cats). So the two of those together had her feeling pretty miserable come Sunday afternoon. Dh still felt shitty enough from his own illness, so his usual sd-worship was on hold still and he just said "she knows better, serves her right".

SD refused to bring me her dirty laundry on Friday like she's supposed to, despite repeated requests from me. She drops it by my door Sunday night. Sorry, I finished my laundry for the week already. Don't know what she's going to do if she runs out of clean school uniforms before Friday.

Then this.morning she once again puts on her winter coat to go to school. It's almost may, and we live in Florida. This has been a daily battle between me and her since early March. Dh finally decides to help me out and rips her a new one about it this morning. He then notices she has a big piece of rolled up paper in her hand and asks her what it is. She then tries to run away to her room, but he catches her by the arm. She's trying to sneak candy out in the rolled up paper.

I might have to make Dh sick more often, as it seems to be the only time he sees SD for the sneaky manipulative kid she is.