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Submitted by LPS on Thu, 04/12/2012 - 3:28am

I am feeling kind of left out, and sad. My DH has been cold and distant toward me for about a week. Last week, I was away, visiting my family and my bio kids were with their dad, so DH and SD were home. When I came home, he told me he had missed me and since then, he has kissed me and made love to me one time. I have tried to get his attention, I have told him straight out, I want to be with him, he tells me no, he says he's depressed and he doesn't want to do anything. I even tried ever so lovingly in bed tonight, holding him, caressing him and kissing him. His face only proved that he is not interested, he grimaced and then he turned his back to me. I am so hurt by this. I am especially hurt because tonight when SD16 got home from her friend at about 9:30pm, DH was so excited to see her, he gave her a gigantic hello. I didn't say anything about it, I just took it in and felt small. I asked DH if it's me, if he was happier when I wasn't here last week and he said, "it has nothing to do with that" what does that even mean? When he said that, I just felt like I was going to cry.

Am I making more out of this than it is? I just feel so sad and unwanted.

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Submitted by asheeha on Thu, 04/12/2012 - 7:32am

I think he's taking you for granted. Has this only been going on a week? I'd be asking him why he's depressed. I don't think this is about you. Did he seem happy when you returned? And is getting into this funk? I can see an endorphin rush happening when he sees his daughter after a few days.

Try to find out why he's depressed. If it persists seek professional help.

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Submitted by LPS on Thu, 04/12/2012 - 9:19am

Thanks all, this just started. Before I left everything was fine, he said he missed me the whole time. I pried it out of him and he says he's depressed over the new yearly lease we are going to sign. I think this is such bullsh*t. We've lived in this house for the almost 3 years we've been married, same great landlord, she's never raised our rent and she's on top of everything. I asked him if he was having an affair and didn't want to sign a lease again and didn't know how to tell me OR did he just not want to be together anymore. He said no to all that. He told me he loves me, I asked him if he's in love with me or does he love me like a favorite shirt, because in my eyes there's a huge difference. His response was- what's better. This was all in text messages so I told him to ask someone else, I wasn't playing. He responded again with in love. Then he said when I feel sad he understands and why cant I? I told him, he makes me feel better and when I tried to help him feel better his face looked like it he was in pain to be next to me. He said it was because he was tired and wants to sleep. He said he's been very tired lately. I just dont get it. As for his daughter, she lives with us, she was just at her friend for the day, so why he was so excited to see her, I have no idea.