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Hmmm, wonder when that "birthday dinner" is going to happen?

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Mon, 04/09/2012 - 11:39am

DH had a birthday more than two weeks ago. Got a text from SD19 acknowledging his birthday at 10 pm (hey, she actually remembered, that's something). And DH informs me that SD19 intends to take him to dinner for his birthday. Um, OK, when?

SD19 is in our town every other week. 3/17, SD19 is in town, DH buys HER lunch. 3/24 (weekend closest to DH's birthday) nothing. 3/31, again nothing. 4/7 Easter, didn't hear from her. Anyone see a theme here? We are moving out of state in less than two months. I would almost bet money that DH never gets that birthday dinner. But in his mind if she offered, she bought, and she's pretty much off the hook. DH has REALLY low expectations for SD19...

Needless to say, he also got no gift or card from SD19.

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Elizabeth's picture

Submitted by Elizabeth on Mon, 04/09/2012 - 2:24pm

Unfortunately, the bar for SD19's behavior is on the floor. It could not GET any lower. So even her acting like a total brat (like not inviting me to her high school graduation) doesn't phase him or cause him to back off on his "relationship" with her. She can do whatever she wants and DH excuses it. I'm waiting for her to kill someone so I can see his reaction. He'll find a way to blame it on the victim...

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Submitted by wendy.extra on Mon, 04/09/2012 - 11:52am

I hope this does not become me. I am the only college educated one making the most money. The stepkids are 6,8, and 10. Unemployed mommy is always asking for more money, I'm sure when kids get older they will be just the same.

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Mon, 04/09/2012 - 12:06pm

But in his mind if she offered, she bought, and she's pretty much off the hook
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OMG!! This is my DH too. And SS has it figured out. SS will always call DH and tell him things like…Hey, I am at the mall and found one of a kind, autographed BB card that I want to buy for you!! It is $3000.00. I am going to buy it for you. (this one example, happened when SS was 16 and working part time in a shoe store). So then DH goes on to tell him to not buy it because it is way too expensive, and blablabla. So then DH “talks” SS out of buying it, but in DH’s mind, he is SOOOOOOO proud that his son was going to buy him something like that!

So freaking annoying. Then I get to listen to DH tell everyone how SS was going to buy him this really expensive item, but DH talked him out of it. But wasn’t SS the nicest kid to want to buy that for his daddy?! That crap still happens to this day. And DH eats it up.