I've been married for 8 years have been a step mom full time since he was 9 he is 17 now his mother check out when he was 2.I never had kids my husband has 4 ,3 are grown and married.from day one I was told I should stay out of all discipline an let my husband do it problem is he doesn't he babies him even at 17 if you say anything to him he starts crying like a baby because it works his father will start yelling at me for upsetting him . I'm at my wits end my mother inlaw came in my home and in front of my step son and husband told me I didn't have the right to tell him to go to bed before 4 in the morning I I kindly told her this Is our family and she was out of line and she then told me know this is my family. I wanted to run and cry for my husband did not stand up for me at all and my step son stood there with a smile on his face .when holidays come around my step son will by his dad and our neighbors gifts never has he thought of me , I do everything for him i do 90 percent of the chores I do outside yard I have a full time job .im at a point where I can't stand this kid . I'm expected to do everything a mother does but never have a say, we tried counseling but my husband didn't like what the counselor had to say so we quit.This kid has ruined my relationship with my husbands family and makes me and my husband fight he is the only reason we fight .if we tell him no he can't have a expensive item a week won't go by when he walks in the door with it my mother in law will buy it even after we tell her no.im so tired of being used I am ready to walk:(((