If you are the Golden Uterus, BM, mine should be plastered with pure Diamonds, I don't like you, silly lady....
just saying.Sometimes it sounds as if BM was the "real deal" to SO when he talks about that horrible moment she left him.I know , I know....it was also his circumstances - he had just lost his job and just arrived here from England, all friends overseas, I understand.
I still dont want hear how special she must have been to him- he actually stated that her leaving him was emotionally sooooo horrible that nothing else and ever could possibly be so bad for him.And that would be the reason why he doesn't sweat the small stuff anymore these days.WTF.Shall I be happy about this?
Anyhow, if she is supposed to be that ultimate "Golden Uterus" since she must have given birth to that extraordinary and wonderful child, I should have a certificate to be the "Diamond Uterus" because I gave birth to three extraordinary and wonderful children , yay,I really should!!!Sadly it would be probably rather my own ex, Pinoccio, who would acknowledge that, lol, so no thanks.
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yes!!! nwifey, you nailed it,
yes!!! nwifey, you nailed it, that is exactly how it sounded.
i know it must sound like
i know it must sound like that but try not to make it about you. i don't think it has anything at all to do with you.
he, at this moment, can't imagine anything worse, and really i know that my DH and BM had a really underwhelming marriage but at the time it was all he knew and she had beat him down so much before she left him that he really did believe he would never be able to find anybody as great as her and then the kids, could you imagine only getting to see your children 4 days a month? his family fell apart, and i believe that that has been the hardest thing my DH has ever gone through.
i have been so emotionally hurt by a man that it took me years to recover. i'm not sure that anybody could ever hurt me like that again. not because i don't love them as much but because i know how strong i actually am. i guess it's like anything, once you've done it your coping skills are better because you have experience to lean on...or that's what you think before you go through it.
my life isn't over...good things do happen eventually...
my dh says it like this, i was amazing enough for him to want to enter marriage again even after he had sworn it off for life! those are the statements i try to hold onto.
thanks Ash, yes, that's what
thanks Ash, yes, that's what I try to look at, too.It also tells me that he is really happy now after all those dramas.I also think that SO one day will want to marry me,when we both are ready and the time is right.
It is good to give it some time, we both were married before,so I dont mind not to be married right now, but sometimes it is the status thing- she- the producer of the golden child, the extraordinary expensive ring and the marriage status.whereas me- the "new relationship", no common kids and not married.
I also went a few years ago through a horrible break up with someone ....so in a way I could also say that it was one of the most horrible experiences I had, so I guess I need to just swallow what he says and not go on about it, right?
I am married to an incredible
I am married to an incredible and amazing woman and have been for nearly 18yrs. However, when my icequeen adulterous cavernous crotch of an XW left me for her geriatric fortune 500 executive sugar daddy it was and remains the most difficult experience I have ever had and I hope it stays that way. I am 48yo now and 26 has been and hopfully will remain the worst year and age of my life. So far anything after 26 has been a joy and a bonus.
I would not want to experience anything remotely like that again.
On some level I completely understand what your DH is saying.
I also believe that the person that we are is a the result of the sum of all that we have experienced. For that reason I would not give back even the hell that was my 26th year. It helps mske me the man that I am and I like who I am. My wife had a child at 16. I do not bemoan her that experience. It is a significant part of the experiences that have made her the amazing young woman I married and the incredible womah I have experienced life with for neary 18 years.
Maybe that is the message that your DH is attempting to convey.
Rags, thanks!! That also
Rags, thanks!! That also helps me to understand it better.Sometimes things we hear are not really how they are meant.I want to make SO happy anyway, happier as he has ever been , and that's my purpose:) (I dont feel as if i need to try out if I can make him as unhappy as BM when she left him of course :O )
Thanks everybody!!