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SD13 has no qualms showing the world her hatred towards me

dispiritedstepmom2011's picture

BM background:

had sd when she was a teen, she and bf were pregnant with sd they graduated high school, month later sd was born.

bm in and out of sd's life, couldnt 'bond', cheated on bf multiple times.

lost custody when sd was 3 or 4.

in an dout of sd's life.

moved across country to 'better her life', left sd here obviously since lost custody to bf.

has told sd many times 'i dont want u'

so, this is the bm who is back in sd's life after being extradited from tx to here. same bm who is claiming to see the errors of her ways and be in sd's life more. same bm who tried killing herself in front of sd when she was like 2, same year she told sd "i hate u, never wanted u, and i dont want u get out of my life'.

bm and sd took professional pics together a month ago i think. sd puts them on fb with captions of hearts and 'i luv my mom' ect.

sd is always writing status' about her mom and how she worries when bm has seizures, how she loves spending time with bm, bm is the greatest, ily mom, ect.

when bf had to go to ER for chest pains couple months back, sd wrotew about how she worried for her father.

i have been to the ER due to my diabetes...not one word on fb about it, not even anything to my face upon return...nothing.

sd scanned a pic of her, bm and bf from long ago, caption reads "family ily"

she even writes stuff on fb about her great stepdaddy.

i wasted 8yrs of my life on this f'n brat, tried to bond, blah blah blah, hell i even told her to give her mom another chance and i would support her if she did or did not!

so heated...and i guess hurt...but i am done with sd...so done...like she'd care anyways.

12yrstepmonster's picture

Sometimes I think in situations like that the kid is looking for acceptance- a validation she is worthy of her moms love.

It doesn't excuse her hurtful behavior. Our counselor told dh that the skids are "feeling" out the boundary. To confirm that indeed nothing they do will stop him from loving. He said the same thing about them to me.

I am probably being too optimistic.....but its a new year!