Should I be upset...????
To make a long story short.... BM suffers from pbd... and we can't get anyone to see it.... so we went through an evaluation and she's the better parent..... even though she has seldom been involved for the last five years since their divorce. so dh has to continue to coparent with the fruitcake. So after all of these sleepless nights.... and the hell bm has put us through by poisoning ss (10) dh sent her an email how we all need to just stop for his son's sake. ok... so I am like YES!! I want this to be over as much as he. I mean she is lower than low... she has never been around... and since the evaluation started she played the perfect mommy part. so the evaluator didn't see her issues... whatever... I am tired... exhausted of trying to be dh private cheerleader... well she writes him an email saying how yes.. she would like for all of this to end... and if they could talk one on one. So he's actually going to agree with this... she's lied so many times before... and you can't really trust her.. he's fully aware... but I guess he wants some type of peace. So he says that he'll meet with her one on one... without me.... should I pissed?? I mean ... when I first met his ex we actually became friends before he decided he wanted to move away... we were pretty close... I mean we talked on the phone for hours every other day. After he told her he wanted to marry me... and maybe move away... HELL broke loose. I mean she became vindictive... she was never around..even on her weeks... she would skip stuff... but when the evaluation started... she became the perfect mom. so he tells me that he thinks it's better if her and him talk first.. without me.... what do you think??? :jawdrop: :jawdrop: :jawdrop: :jawdrop:
I can clearly see why a one
I can clearly see why a one on one with her would upset you, however, to be honest if he knows what she is like and if he has this meeting with her and takes notes (afterwards of course) he then may have some ammunition down the track to be used in court if need be. He will be seen to have done all he good for the good of his child.
You say "he is fully aware of her lies and manipulations" so why would you worry, let him have this last one on one and just tell him that you expect his to be the first and last one on one, he needs to be clear that is how you feel and he needs to respect that, and he also has to make it ABBUNDANTLY clear to his ex during their one on one that she had better get it all out now, because there will be no more one on one's with her, you are his wife (or soon to be) and as such part of his family, so whatever goes on in his family affects you and you have a right to an opinion.
That being said, I really do see how you would well and truly ticked off with this. If you trust him, let him go but as I said let it be clear this is to be a once off thing, you have no intention of being left out of future discussions that will impact on your life. Because anything that has to do with his son impacts on his life and by default yours.
I agree wth the above..keep
I agree wth the above..keep your cool and let her have a LAST moment to exspress whatever and KNOW its done and over with