Hello all- 1st timer here! So glad I found this site!
Like many of you – I’m dealing with the husband’s EX- and mother of his child. Needless to say I know her very well, and not just because I’m the “step mom”. I’m talking way before him and I ever came about…. Once upon a time we were friends… to make a long story short we are the same age and hung around a lot of the same people way back in our high school days.. I knew she was crazy back then too (we weren’t that close but always around the same group of people) when I started dating my boyfriend ( husband now) a couple years ago I found out-- low and behold she was his EX! And mother of his child( we lost touch )- I was like grrreeaat ! To be honest with you, it scared me like you wouldn’t believe. She by far, was the most evil person I had ever known… the things she would do to people how unstable she was and how it was completely obvious she had no feelings what so ever (hints as to why we were never close) I had seen the damage one could cause, because I had witnessed it long ago.
Let me tell you she is good at what she does. I have never met a more conniving person in my life… she has ruined our reputation like you wouldn’t believe with the most off the wall things… she is so good at it .. its un-real. I have a 5 yr old girl and my husband has a 4 yr old boy with her … we have him full time she lost 50/50 custody because of her unstableness, now she only gets him every other weekend. She does everything to make out lives miserable. Did I mention she is delusional, a pathological liar and bipolar?
We have our hands full with her alone. Horrible text messages, phone calls, visits.. you name it she has done it. She went into the daycare center where are children go and was bashing our parenting to the teacher in the preschool! I mean the list goes on and on. I do not have contact with her most of the time..She usually goes through my husband, Thank God! The things she does is so childish! On my step sons 4th birthday we went to drop him off to her, we were 7 minutes late because he was playing with his new birthday toys
(Keep in mind the last time she dropped him off to us she was 45 mins late and we didn’t say a thing her)
She went ballistic! When we got there she came storming out to our car with her new two week old daughter in her arms, sleeping might I at … she contentiously kept screaming, cussing and name calling. Yes in front of her son. I mean what you do with someone that unstable!? Little does she know- if she could be a decent person we could all get along a lot better.
When she text messages and calls, my husband can’t even defend himself because what she is saying is so off the wall he doesn’t even know what she is talking about. We would just stop answering her phone calls but in the court paper work it says you cannot decline a parent’s phone call if they are trying to make contact with the child .. which she does almost every other night, it would be nice if it were for her son but it isn’t .