I got married 6 months ago..found porn on my husband's phone and he told me that it was just spam..the next day he told me that he came across it looking up car parts and when he realised what it was got off the site...why lies though? my thoughts are on my two step kids 17 and 18 alot! I don't want them seeing anymore pain than they have so I keep alot of my feelings inside. My step son has been depressed over breaking up with some one so the whole family took him to counselling.. I looked up the place for him and did not even get a thank you. Not even from my husband who never does the emotional leg work with the kids...or me. Last night I asked myself if I was wasting my time...I feel like I give,give and give and all they do is take..I feel taken for granted..any suggestions?