My house, huh? That's interesting given I don’t get to make any decisions about what goes on in MY house. As for your daughter, it must be hard to remember not to eat in the living room, pick up her cloths, wash her dishes or help with chores but pretty easy to remember to take her birth control pill every day, do her makeup, fix her hair, or eat. The truth is, she really doesn't care because she's often inconsiderate and she pretty much always has been. ADD is a lame excuse quite honestly and I'm disappointed you went there. For me to have to remind her doesn’t really work for anyone. You see, she gets annoyed and if I don’t say anything, I get resentful. If I have to remind her, then I'm the bad guy. if I tell you, you don't want to hear it or else you think I'm overreacting. What's truly unfortunate is that you don’t seem to understand the dynamic. You are a very black and white guy who doesn't seem to see what's really going on. I don’t need power struggles in my home from your daughter. I've been down that road already with your kids and I'm damn well not going back there. I refuse to sit back and watch you get manipulated over and over and over. Dad can you pick up my books? Dad can you give me gas money? Dad can you find me a home for my dog? Dad can you help me move? Dad can you bring the air hockey table to the Youth Center (5 hours away round trip)? Dad can you help me get another car? Dad can you give me a place to live? I have never seen someone so needy and when you on rare occasion push back and say no, she works on the other parent. In some cases, her mom then puts the pressure on you along with your daughter. Remember, this is a girl who has gone through 4 cars already because she was careless and irresponsible! I'm just sick and tired of all the constant demands/requests. Not only are some of these demands/requests unreasonable, but they are because she has planned so poorly or made bad decisions. That goes for her mother, too. Then, you have to use good portion of your "free time" to fix everything. Guess what? This doesn’t work for me. It's always, always something. I need time with you. Clearly you cannot prioritize your time to make that happen. I need some occasional help from you. Again, you are not prioritizing your time appropriately. I refuse to always compete for your time, because of all these "obligations" you take on. Personally, I don’t believe they're obligations but I'm sure you, as the parent or a friend, have convinced yourself of that. When do I become a priority? You had asked why I sounded disappointed when you told me your were texting with your friend and couldn’t answer my call? Of course I was! What if I had been in a car accident? Apparently, making lunch plans was more important than answering my call. I can’t even make an appointment for therapy because I can't count on you being there. What if your daughter needs a ride or ....??? God forbid, that would certainly need to come first.

I think it was a bad idea for your daughter to move in to your home and I'm confident that she's here to stay for quite some time. Her short-term plan is no way going to happen. You see, I don’t see her making enough money at the chocolate store working part-time to really afford her own place or to share a place. I guess waitressing for good cash at the casino was too much effort for her to go forward with on her own. Much easier to use a guy to get what she wants, in this case a job at a chocolate store, I would imagine near his kiosk? Perhaps even a job at the library would have been better, since she doesn’t have to DRIVE there. She would already be there. And, since you decided you were going to support her while she goes to school, there's nothing I can do or say that will make me look like anything other than a shrew and a complainer and an enemy. You are so wrapped up in pleasing her and making sure you are on good terms with her but it's so obvious to me that you're only on good terms when you say yes to all her demands. Anything less and she bombards you with pressure and guilt. Grow a pair and TEACH her something. And don't you ever again put me in the position of outsider. It's wrong and I will no longer tolerate it.