My husband's ex left him when they got "married." I put it in quotes because SHE intercepted the marriage license and never filed it. Not understanding, when she got pregnant on the honeymoon, my husband, who relocated her from LA to Chicago, thought he had a happy life. She argued successfully in court that she was only there for an extended period and not married, and therefor the custody battle has taken place in CA since then. 4 years. Thank goodness, they signed, in front of lawyers a stipulation that they were never married and that should have been it. She found a lawyer who is great at manipulating the system and because she doesn't pay attorney's fees, what does she care if this goes on forever. Cut to 1 year after the stip was signed. WE get married. Now have a child and she is arguing they WERE and always have been married. Hundreds of thousands of dollars later, we are still in court, after the judge denied the motion FOUR times. I really wish judges would have the balls and truly sanction attorneys for their egregious behavior. She lives and has lived with her mommy for 43 years, in the same house in which she grew up. She is having her daughter go to the same crappy schools she went to, even though he is willing to pay for private school and transportation out of the ghetto. She frequents the PLayboy mansion and has everyone convinced it is everyone else's fault but hers. The court system aides people who have histrionic personality disorder. Of which she was diagnosed during a psych eval. The custody evaluator was deposed and showed her inherent bias to the mom and her report, along with her credibility was thrown out of the case-- and all at a financial cost to the husband. 5 settlement offers from my husband and not ONE response. WHAT CAN YOU DO with a woman and a lawyer willing to take this to extremes?
She did get caught lying in her depositions and she settled for a 50/50 immediately until the child was in K. I have so many lies I am prepared to unveil and think because she is motivated by her reputation remaining clean, that she will settle. But any suggestions how to handle any of this? The Family Court system is beyond flawed and needs to be fixed. But what can one person do?