You are here

I REFUSE to let her move in.

trystme's picture

I'm the bad guy right now but that is perfectly fine with me. SD29 had an eviction hearing on Monday. She won't tell us what happed but says that she wants to move her and her 8 yo DS in with us. When DH told her once again, our stand on that issue, she asked for money. Dh said that he would "see what he could do." I said NO WAY. We have given her too much money already. Any money we give her is NOT going to solve her problem so what would be the point?

So now she's posted some crap on FB about how she has to move back to Calif. and back in with her mother and that it is all DH's fault. I think that moving back in with her mother is a fine idea! Too bad it isn't in China.

He has told her that she has to get another job, either a second job or a better paying job. She says that she doesn't have time. But, she only works part-time! She could also get a cheaper place to live but she won't do that either. Instead of sovling her own problems she'd rather ask for handouts and then when we don't give them, all her problems become our fault.

At least DH is holding the line and not allowing her to move in. If he faulters I'm going to tell himt that if he wants to live with her that he can do it elsewhere but not in my house. This is one thing that I refuse to give one inch on. I have given in so many times in the past, but not this time.

The problem is that I have anxiety about retaliation. BM has already threatened to try to get me fired by calling my work to tell them that I am on drugs. I keep worrying about what they are going to do next that will reek havoc in my life.

doll faced sm's picture

The problem is that I have anxiety about retaliation. BM has already threatened to try to get me fired by calling my work to tell them that I am on drugs. I keep worrying about what they are going to do next that will reek havoc in my life.

Give your HR a heads up that someone is threatening you with this, and tell them you'll happily submit to drug testing at any time???

Regardless, good for you for sticking to your guns. Don't allow SD and BM to hold you hostage in your own home with threats.

trystme's picture

Yesterday, dh gave sd his credit card and told her that he had a $20,000 limit and to use it to buy whatever she needs to make this move, (having been evicted.) He told her "if you fail, it won't be my fault." I AM LIVID! I cannot believe that he did this. He thinks that she will be responsible and only use a couple of thousand dollars. I don't even know what to say any more.

trystme's picture

Update: SD29 spent over $3500 on the credit card. Finally dh agreed to have it cancelled.

SD29 got fired yesterday. She works at the same place that dh does. She never did a very good job. She kept wearing low rise jeans and showing her ass crack even after being told multiple times not to. Then the last straw was when the boss asked her to do something and she said "I have a degree, that is beneath me." SHE DOESN'T HAVE A DEGREE!

Now dh feels sorry for her! "But, she is a single mother with no money and no insurance." boo fucking who... it is her own damn fault. She has been given way too many chances.