After Saturday's blow up with SD20 and her disrespecting me and cussing me out, and me not being able to hold my frustration in, and cussed back at her in return, BM calls DH and he doesn't answer, so she decides to send DH and me a text (SD20 gave her my cellphone number) telling DH how she can't believe that he let me disrespect SD20 like that by cussing at her and calling her a b*** (it wasn't until she called me one- felt I had to defend myself somehow some way). So she then goes on by saying that if she ever sees me there will be an altercation (thanks for threatening me by text message dummy) and that I need to call her a b*** to her face. So sick of this woman and her little daughter. I just told the SD20 the truth, that she has issues and that she has some growing up to do. That's when she went bolistic, told me to shut the f up ( told her no, you need to shut the f up) and get the f out of her house and then proceeded to call me a b**** as I was walking out of the door. Should I have just kept my mouth shut and let her talk to me any kind of way?? DH did step in and tell SD20 that she is not to disrespect me, and then SD says that DH is choosing me over her. There have been so many times that SD20 has called DH because she has gotten into it with her BM and I hear DH on the phone telling her not to disrespect BM. So damn sick of these people and their drama. Don't know what to do. I am so over it. Don't know how much longer I can deal. Is it worth it???