This is coming from a SD point of view... You know what really irritates me about my current SF? The fact that he thought I would just one day go away, disappear, & never return. I am an only child, my mother is an only child, & her mother is an only child. We are all close. Not only that, but as I look to my extended family, distant cousins & what not - I see that they are all close to each other. Heck, my mother's first cousin & her mother do not get along, but they argue everyday! This is just a close knit family... that's the way it is. When I was fighting with my mother I tried to distance myself & she would not allow it.

What I'm saying is that family is family. Dynamics might change, roles might get reversed, but a close family will always be close. Isn't that the way it should be?

BTW - as a SD, I did everything to get my current SF to be part of MY family. I really considered him a part of my family, so much so that I called him my "Dad" & even changed my last name to his. Didn't matter, he still treated me like he hated me. Now I call him my Stepdad, because that's the role he wanted in my life, & I regret changing my last name. After all these years, struggling to make him something he doesn't want to be just isn't worth it.

And after all these years, I don't take it as personally as I used to. I mean, the way he treats me bugs the hell out of me, but that's the way his family treats each other, which is why I don't like them that much.

Hipi