I moved to the town that DH and BM grew up in back in 2004 to finish up school. BM at the time lived 2 hours away. Two years ago she decided to move back to her hometown (the town we live in). It’s been awful since. And although I love that SD is so much closer, I hate that BM is and wish she would have never moved back. She currently lives about 2 miles from our house.

Thing that sucks is that she has all her family here and all her friends, she grew up here. I have to be careful with what I say, because really I don’t know who knows her or people in her family. In fact, someone I am very close to at work – just came out that she went to school with BM’s brother.

The only saving grace is that BM is 10 years older than me and is complete trash – so we would NEVER have the same friends, hang out at the same places, even just get along with the same people. Hell she shops at Walmart and I shop at Target. We are so complete opposites that I have actually never ran into her in the 2 years she has been back. And we live in an average size town. However, because she lives literally blocks from my employer, I do occasionally see her when I’m driving – plus we have to drive past her apartment complex to get back to our subdivision. So that’s about the only interaction I might possible have with her. And now she has a new car, and I have no idea what it looks like, color, model – and want to keep it that way.

I have rarely went to pick up my SD or drop her off and it makes my stomach have butterflies and I get this huge overwhelming wave of anxiety. I hate confrontation and I hate knowing that someone can flat out lie about me in a court of law and to a CHILD just out of spite and get away it and I have absolutely nothing that I can do about it.