Hi there! I'm new to this so I apologize ahead of time. I'm not necessarily a "step mom" but close enough I'd say. Three months ago my boyfriend's ex with whom he has two little boys, decided to up and leave to move to VA with her boyfriend. she literally dropped the boys off to our house, told them she was moving and 15 minutes later was just gone. She left everything behind. My boyfriend's two sons are 8 and 7 years old. His youngest is Autistic. They are amazing children and I love them like they were my own. However, in these last three months I feel that my boyfriend has left me to do pretty much everything. I was laid off from my job a little over a year ago and am currently a full time nursing student. I do however work part time on the side. My boyfriend has a full time job Tues - Friday. During all of my spare time I take care of his two boys. Don't get me wrong, I love doing it, but I also am left to do absolutely everything else around the home, make their appointments, cook, clean, etc. When his boys first started living with us, he was at least trying a little and very motivated. Now, he goes to work, comes home, tends to his garden and jeep and just assumes I'll take care of everything else. He doesn't ask if i need help and I've had MANY discussions with him telling him that I cannot do this all on my own because my life has taken a total change, I'm like a full time mother. I feel he is more focused on himself than on his sons or myself...he has been very selfish and needs to re-prioritize. I feel like I've talked to him over and over and nothing seems to change...it may change for a day then it's back to the old routine. I use my own money..the little i have to buy his boys clothes, ice cream...treat them to different things. I even took them to the ocean for the first time this past month because they'd never been. When I asked their father to come, he said he'd rather stay home and work on his jeep. I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do and am in desperate need of some advice. Thank you

Sincerely,
E