Excuse me if I don't jump for joy that SD is ready to do better?!?!!?
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SD14 and I have struggled for 2 years since she has lived with us! She is all of it, lying, minupulative, sneaks out, is w/ boys (at least 3). on and on.
Well, her and daddy have been buddy buddy for the past couple of days and he says....
"She is really trying here; she knows what she has done and I want you to see she is ready!"
WTF!! After a week! this girl has turned our lives upside down and I'm supposed to just what...............take her word for it??? Ya right!
Is is me or should trust be earned??
I would be rich too!!
I would be rich too!! Meanwhile, while DH and pricess are bonding. BD12 just told me yesterday SD14 came into her room and jumped on her bed and said.........."Damn this bed is too noisey to do anything on!!"
REALLY!! Hello you skank leave my 12 year old alone!! God!! Keep buying it daddy!!
Just like everybody else has
Just like everybody else has said. Don't you DARE fall for it.
Do not fall for it. I did
Do not fall for it. I did everytime until she decided to live with mom and tell mom all sorts of lies. She always said she would do better when DH would confront her. Eventually she stopped and sued us to live with mom. The lies and manipulation she did is amazing.
These kids do not change unless something absolutely drastic.
Tread cautiously. DH's don't get that these girls are master manipulators until it is too late.
I agree with you 1000000% on
I agree with you 1000000% on this. When I said things that she "was going to do or would happen" he will say I'm mean or being so rude to HER!! then.......it would happen!! of course and he would say.....I guess I got egg in my face...Yep you did AGAIN. She has said and done this so many times; and the sad part is she's just getting better at it and that's the scary part. Don't you think that would scare them more........how much these kids can hide how sneaky they are!! It never ends
My ss13 is seen as making a
My ss13 is seen as making a genuine effort if he mumbles hello to me.
It's amazing how low the bar is set for these children. No wonder they are losers. My husband also thought ss did great on his last 24 hour visit because he did not scream at anyone. Of course, my dh fails to notice that noone was around him all weekend. I hid in our basement, my kids all went to friends houses, even my son slept on the couch to avoid him.
But, yeah, all it takes if for ss to have one conversation with dh telling him how much he really wants to get along with all of us. Then he plays the sympathy card, "I just feel like they dont like me" and dh is sucked in every time. Just once I wish he would confront ss and say, "Well, no shit they dont like you, you have screamed, hit, bullied, agitated, and terrozied them all for years-what is their to like?"
So when dh tries to tell me to give chances, etc, I always tell him that I will look very hard for signs of positive behavior and make sure i take note of all of them. When I see that this positve behavior is occurring over several weeks I will congratulate him on his effort. Needless to say I've never actually had to take note of anything nor have I had to congratulate him.
I agree with "Don't fall for
I agree with "Don't fall for it!!"
BTDT and they always revert back to their normal self. SD has done this to DH and me so many times it's laughable.
Yep, I used to get this
Yep, I used to get this too..... It is just so....weird.....
SD21 is still the same, it's just not done in front of us, or in our home anymore....if I am the only one who sees it, then so be it......
I swear DH was the happiest man ever, and sooo proud, when SD21, 19 yrs old at the time, managed to do her chores on a Saturday morning ( the list was huge...do your stinking washing AND clean YOUR rotting Bathroom..... The poor dear, how would she cope with ALL that ! ) Well it took her all morning, but then it was like he had witnessed a miracle or something, hmmmmmm. seemed to forget, he had been reminding her during the week to get organised and DO IT !!!
If she did ANY extra there was ALWAYS a reason behind it, for her own gain.......
OMG............21!!!!!!!!
OMG............21!!!!!!!! NOOoooooooooooooooooo :jawdrop:
I would almost laugh at this
I would almost laugh at this if my SD21 wasn't the same age, and would rather drink from our wine glasses when all the other glasses are dirty rather than load up the dishwasher.
My DH falls for my SD's
My DH falls for my SD's promises to "do better" as well. It's hard to watch. Even when her pattern is repeated over and over again he never seems to see it. It's a wicked thing she does. I can't tell if she's mental or if she really plans this stuff. When she wants something she is SUPER sweet, leading DH to think she's changed her ways. Once she gets what she wants...the cruel side of her comes out and she just doesn't care about who she's hurting or being disrespectful to. Drives me mad!!!