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Ex wife with your kids?

Denys's picture

Hi! Have you ever experienced lets say when you were pregnant or when your child was little that the ex wife wants to participate, get involved and act like shes part of the family...and tell you what do to or give you advice...on how to raise your child? How you handle this?

inneedofanswers's picture

I havent had my own babies yet but if that bitch comes anywhere near my babies she will feel the force of my foot so far up her arse she will have to go to the vet to get it removed (vet because the the hospital doesnt allow moles).

Disneyfan's picture

DF has 2 BMs. One I get along great with. The other I hate. I wouldn't have a problem with first being around. I would beat the crap out of the other one if she put a finger on my child.

briarmommy's picture

BM brought SS to the hospital the day after I gave birth, she kept a 6yr old and herself camped out in my room for FOUR hrs. Then the next week she still insisted even though I had just given birth to my first child that DH start his ALL summer visitation. So I became a stay at home mom not just to my first child but also to an unruly 6yr old I had never been alone with before a week after giving birth. Then she had the nerve to try to come in my house when she dropped SS off, try to hold my daughter(DID NOT HAPPEN), and gave gifts(one of which was a minnie mouse stuffed doll that was hers) After she left I waited till no one was around and disposed off all the gifts but first I let my lab/boxer mix play with the minnie mouse doll, that made me feel better. After that I had a long talk with my SS about how his mommy was special to him but was not family or anything special to my daughter.........she hasn't tried to insert herself again. She was just doing it to annoy me we never talked or anything before that, she was even trying to tell my DH how to change diapers when they were visiting the hospital and trying to get him to reminice about when SS was born. The only reason he let her be there was he wanted SS there. Trust me when they left DH got reamed by me and by my best friend who stayed at the hospital for the whole 4hrs glaring at her so I wouldn't be alone. Nip it in the bud they arent nice unless they are leading into something else .........unless you have a great relationship with bm then hoorah for you but if you don't I would be suspicious and just assume she is trying to remind you she was there first and had his kid first.

cnd62107's picture

lol i was pregnant (miscarried, i still don't have children of my own) and when SD told BM she offered to send over some of her maternity clothes and baby stuff!!! it was like umm thanks for the offer, very nice but noooope i aint about to wear your clothes!!! so FH can see me walking around pregnant wearing the same stuff you walked around wearing when pregnant with SD?? weird..

Done WIth It's picture

Briarsmommy...that woman had absolutely no business in your room or dropping off her kid when you'd just given birth and needed that alone time with baby and father. What an insensitive dumbass.

3 hours and 45 minutes was longer than she should have stayed. I can't believe no one thanked her for coming and then led her to the door with a good-bye. WHo the hell did she think she was?

Sounds like you set her straight, though.

Unhappy's picture

The BM in my life wanted to pick my BD(6), she was 5 at the time up after school because I have a job and she didn't at the time and take her over to her house and fix her lunch and just take care of her while I was at work. What she didn't know is that I knew that she had been trying to break SO and I up for about six months straight and was stalking SO at the time. BM was told by SO that this made me feel very uncomfortable. Her response, "she gets to spend time with my kids." On what planet does the Ex hang out with the new GF's kid/s? Shes a nut job. Regardless we had a 3 day weekend a couple of days later and when BD returned to school on Tuesday guess who showed up on the playground after I had dropped her off? You guessed it, BM. The neighbor girl said that she heard BM asking my BD if she wanted to come over to her house to play and stated that watching the interaction made her feel very uncomfortable.OOOOOOOOOOOhh, I was livid. BM got another call from SO and was confronted about it. Of course she lied because that's what she does but the point was made none the less.

briarmommy's picture

I would have talked to the school about why an adult who was not your daughters parent was allowed near her on the playground? That is unacceptable on the schools part, the play ground should be monitered and the adults should be making sure that people aren't talking to the children. You need to have a come to jesus talk with this woman, I had it with my stepson and I am pretty sure he told his mother because she laid off on the trying to hold my child or see her. She still quizzes SS about her but she doesn't say anything to DH or I. I told SS that his mother is special to him and that is wonderful because she is his mommy but BM is nothing to my DH and I's daughter. While my daughter is his half sister that doesn't mean that BM is anything to her. I told him plainly and didn't sugar coat it, Your BM is nothing to my daughter. After that SS didn't ask about it and BM laid off, I think the quizzes to SS or more so that she can try to find some way that SS was ahead of my daughter at that age to feel better about herself more then trying to be in her life. It won't happen though because DH says our daughter is leaps ahead of SS when he was that age.