Ok, I'm back with the ex - we talked everything out and we are on the same page with boundaries, etc. The BM is still being crass, but we aren't letting her get between us. However, I feel terrible over a t-shirt I bought for their son....

boyfriend had to take an unexpected trip to his brothers house over a moderate family calamity the other night. We had his oldest son that weekend (6 years old) and baby mama was supposed to pick him up the evening that my bf needed to leave. Boyfriend was waiting for her to pick the kid up before he headed off, however, bm called at the last minute to say she is working late and will not be able to pick him up for several more hours. He then told here that something has come up in his family and explained that *I* will keep the boy until she picks him up, which was totally fine by me.

Anyhow, me and the boy went to the mall after the bf left. I took him out to eat and then we did a little shopping. I bought him some nice Jordan clothes, a couple polo shirts and.....a tye dye shirt with a pic of Bob Marley on the front. No, BobM was not smoking a joint or anything. It was just a pic of him smiling. My bf is a huge BM fan and his son recognized him from an old CD that my bf has. When the boy asked me to buy it for him, I saw nothing wrong with it, Bob M is known as a great musician in my book.

Well, when birthmother picked him up that evening and saw the shirt, she said nothing to me, but sent a text to my BF telling him how inappropriate it is for a 6 yo to have a BM shirt and joked that i may need to take a parenting class. Bf said he doesn't see anything wrong wit it, but can also see her side.
I feel terrible now. Like I fail miserably. Was it inappropriate ladies? It was just a kids shirt of BobM smiling, not smoking, no lyrics, etc. Geeesh. His mom lets him wear a Michael Jackson Shirt - how is that any better?