So DH is returning from a "what shall we do about Dad" visit to his parents 6 hours away. He has been gone for 3 days and his 23 yr. old son has come in every night after 3am despite his claims of studying for a mid-term exam.

I don't know what has happened between them--- I suspect it is more of the same lying, stealing that has been going on since I first met the kid --when he was 11 and already the best liar I've ever seen--- So DH storms into the house and immediately begins berating me for not cleaning the house. I tried to talk to him - asking what's wrong, what has happened... he continues to shout. Finally, I tell him that I am not the maid and invite him to clean as much as he likes. Suddenly he is incredibly angry, too angry to even speak to me. There was a time when his frequent silent rages would make me either afraid or depressed or repentant (whether or not I did anything wrong) but now I am so sick and tired of him - just lost yet another job and is making absolutely no effort to even look for another-- last time it took him 2 years to even start looking==== and so sick and tired of his surly, lying deadbeat son, that I can't even muster up the emotional energy to be upset.\
*sigh* here we go again.