BM went from mega B**CH to just plain B**CH
So after Easter, when she threw her hands up at me and stared me down I'd have enough. Then the following wkend which was our turn with her children she has the nerve to ask an hour before we pick them up can you get them an hour early. FDH responds with no but you can drop them off befor I'm suppose to get them. Well FDH was in the shower when BM pulled up. SD4 was crying as usual to not come she wants to be at her real house blah blah blah....BM turns around gives me a dirty look won't give the youngest to me and tells SD4 go find daddy. Really WTF is that about? So I sent BM a txt. Heres what it said..
BM this is getting really old. It's been over a year sense FDH and I have been together and the childish behaviors need to stop. You have no right to hate me or treat me the way you do before FDH was even gone you were telling him about kissing your new man and sleeping with him. If you can't Handel even a hi at my house with out a dirty look stay in your car. FDH and I don't enjoy your company anymore then you enjoy mine. But we don't act like children.
Now she just takes the kids or drops them off and won't say one word to either of us. And for the first time in months SD4 wasn't hateful to me! I'm scared it all going to blow up in my face. What do you guys think?
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I think you need to stop
I think you need to stop engaging the crazy. Just ignore her. Don't text her when you think you've been treated poorly by her. Who cares? Do you want to be friends with her? I doubt it. I could care less if BM flipped me the bird or gave me a dirty look and would NEVER give her the satisfaction of letting her know that she gets to me. IGNORE HER... you're feeding the monster and as long as that monster is getting fed it's NEVER going to go away.
Well it sounds to me like
Well it sounds to me like your text worked. So now you don't have to talk to her. I wouldn't expect anything else, though.
That was my plan, to stop
That was my plan, to stop before I was ahead of my self. I've only said one other thing to her and it was only stating that I will never try to take place of being the mother with her children. I have held my tounge again and again. I just needed to say something you know? I agree FDH needs to take it from here. Thanks for your advice on what to look into I'll share it with FDH.
It always amuses me when
It always amuses me when people say "You have no right.."
"You need to respect me ...."
Sad but true, people can behave any way they want. Was what she was doing illegal? No. Was it childish and hateful? Yes. But there is NOTHING you can do about her behaviour unless she is on your property taking a swing at you or destroying your property or disturbingthe peace.
Sadly, you showed your hand. You let her know you had details relating to her marriage with your FDH which really are personal. I would have kept that information for a much more revealing event with more witnesses.
Choose your battles. I have seldom spoken to BM in my world. She is a cold fish and never talks to me about anything except to ask her son or DH to call her back. She actually invited us to YSSs graduation party which blew my mind. Luckily I have my MIL aka drinking buddy coming into town on Thursday so I have my inhouse buffer *grin*.
Do not engage her in ANYTHING but pleasentries ever again. It will drive her crazier. And when the kids see their mother getting nutso over you being nice... well they can work it out.