So I busted my but cleaning the house extreamly good and it's dirty in three days. It's not hard to pick up after your self why can't men just be self sufficent. At that on mothers day he says nothing to me. No I am not there BM but I bath them untill recently did all there laundry clean after them do arts and crafts with them all while SD4 is a shit head to me and I get nothing. I'm not expecting a gift but a hey thanks for all the work you do. BM is still a mega bit*h to me so I sent a very mature text explaing that her behavior is childish and it needs to stop it's been a year. Explaining that I am not ok with this behavior and it's getting exstreamly old. I also said if she can't respect me at my house then she needs to stay in the car. BM then proceeded to text FDH over and over till he finalley called her and apologized for me sending the text. I can't rely on him to do anything because he let's his fear of her controll him way to much. So how am I in the wrong? I can't stand by and do nothing while I get treated like dirt. While FDH does nothing cause of fear. In my eyes he'd rather fight with me then her. I just want respect I talk and I talk and it's I'll change I promise then back to this. What is the point is there any hope or am I chasing a lost dream.