Update on last nights battle. Dh got home from his meeting and slept on the couch till about 1 am & then came up. This morning he acted like nothing ever happened. two nights in a row of crazy bipolar behavior is enough to drive me crazy.

I don't get the whole vacation thing, we never took a lot as kids, we did camp when I was older but my parents were poor & we couldn't afford these things. My ex & I only took two vacations in our entire 9 years together. We spent our money on having a nice home and things like that. DH & BM took vacations & have nothing to show for it.

Here's the thing that concerns me the most. After DH left & went to his Lions meeting the kids were left with me to take them to ball practice ( love that I am an evil selfish bitch but you can leave me to take your kids somewhere). The three of us talked and I apologized for them having to listen to that crap, the oldest was very upset. I told them no holds barred what did they think, be honest with me. They both told me that I am not evil and that their dad can be difficult to deal with at times. I also asked the younger one did he think I was mean ( Dh accused me of that the night before when the kids weren't with us) and was I to hard on him with what I expect behavior wise. He told me no, that he knows I love him & am doesn't feel that I am too hard on them.

Here is what concerns me, SS13 tells me that SS11 gets like his dad & the two of them argue a lot at mom's house & that SS11 flys off the handle & throws stuff and is combative when SS13 tells him to do things. SS 11 is the carbon copy of DH and although he doesn't act quite like this at our house ( probably because I run a pretty tight ship & am always the one who has to tell him not to do stuff) I am really concerned that out of the three boys that he will end up being bipolar like his father. I told SS 11 that he needs to work on controlling his emotions & expressing his feelings better, because he doesn't want to be like his dad.