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Submitted by dreamer614 on Tue, 04/26/2011 - 4:18pm

Sad How do you live contently when your step-daughters bm just up and left with no word for 4 years. I am tired of being "ok" with it. i am tired of cleaning up the mess and dealing with thhe crap. Why does the husband expect me to just deal with it? be the grown up. We have one child together and another on the way and he expects me to love his child the way I love my Biochildren. Ridiculous. She is 10 now and her manipulation skills have far surpassed any childs that I know and I am tired of blowing a gasket and looking like the bad guy!!!

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Submitted by dreamer614 on Tue, 04/26/2011 - 4:41pm

Oh she did remarry and had two sons. Both of whom live with two separate family members on the Paternal fathers side. So she has nada one of any 3 of her children. My SD was literally "dumped" last minute on us by the mother, and of course I get no say in the situation and have to live with it. When she behaves it's ok in the least. But when she is bad.....it is bad. She throws the non-mom card all the time. I just hope this blogging helps get some of this anxiety out. Lord know you can't always talk to the BP about your feelings with out being made a bad guy!

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Submitted by dreamer614 on Tue, 04/26/2011 - 4:58pm

I have tried to "lower the expectations" before and it never ended nicely....more of a "i will find someone else to be her mother" response. UGGHHH!!! i cant feel guilty that I love my Daughter, and could never consider leaving my child (and soon..children), but I shouldn't be made to feel guilty for not giving his BD what her own mother can't give her!