Apparently the tradition is to be a pain in the butt.

It started last week. BM's fiance's family had a large gathering planned for Saturday and so did BF's family. BF left it up to BM as to what they did so that she couldn't come back and say that he forced her to do something. To me it was a no brainier the Bio Dad's family should come first. BM thought about it and tried to force BF to make the choice eventually she said that BF could have them (it was his day to have them any way and I don't think she wanted to deal with them) so we took them to see his family on Saturday. According to their custody agreement they are to share holidays.

So BM said that her family was having breakfast on Sunday at 10:30am which was fine BF family said they would do lunch later at 3 pm. Still giving us time for our regularly schedule 5 pm switch (this is her week to have them) Then they were going to BM's faience's mom's house for dinner.

BM was 15 minutes late to pick the kids up for the first Easter thing. The kids were so hungry we had already gave them a little breakfast to hold them over. They talked a little about the Evening thing, she told BF to call her because she didn't know where she was going to be (at home or at Faience's mom's house) she told BF that he may have to drop them off there, which is way out in the county and would be a little awkward if you ask me. Then HER faience said "well we could just pick them up after we are done at mom's" which I felt bad because his mom is our sitter (don't ask) and she was looking forward to seeing the kids on Sunday - or at least that is what she told us on Friday. But it's not my place.

They brought the kids back on time - no shocker there. And we left for BF's parents house. We didn't expect the kids to eat a lot, they had just had breakfast after all. They played and didn't want to leave but it was time (5 pm) to go back to BM's. BF txt'ed her when we got close but BM was already in the middle of dinner. (why they couldn't want until 5 was beyond me) She couldn't make up her mind what she wanted to do and I was getting mad - either you want them or you don't. She wanted BF to make the call but he wasn't going to, this was her thing. She could either meet us at the gas station near where they were or pick them up later - which SS5 was already asking where BM was and freaking out because he was 'late' to go to Gma's. After a long time she finally agreed to meet us but when she got there she didn't seem happy about it.

The icing on the cake was, BM txt'ed BF at 11PM a photo of the boys outside playing. at 11PM! BF uses his cell as an alarm clock and when it gets a txt it beeps every so often until you look at it. so of course it woke us both up. I was ticked, he was just annoyed. Seriously why would you send that at that time at night. I know she was mad at us for inconveniencing her. Her anger/thoughts were probably keeping her awake and she wanted to show BF that the boys have fun with her too but wait until morning, like 8 am. I want to say something to her so bad but I won't but i think BF should. She shouldn't txt or call after 9 pm unless it's important, like some one went to the hospital important. And now she only calls and txt BF when he is at work - because I went off on her one night when she called all irate at the house, but she shouldn't call him at work unless it's important and about the kids. which is not the case 90% of the time.

I am so annoyed right now.