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Submitted by demidee on Fri, 02/18/2011 - 5:44pm

I'm new here and I have a wonderful four year old SD. I'm young, still in college, and have no kids of my own. I love this little girl to death, and me and my DH have her 4-5 times a week. But whenever she is here her Dad forgets I exist. And if he tries to give me a hug, then she throws a tantrum! She is Daddy's little girl, which I love, but he let's her do anything and everything. And BM's boyfriend recently went to jail, so since then, SD has been sleeping with her mom, and REFUSES to sleep in her bed. I don't know what to do. I love my SD and I don't want to not have her around, but when she is here there is never any time for me! I thought that night time would be our time, but I guess not?! HELP!

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Submitted by myhusbandswife on Fri, 02/18/2011 - 9:32pm

Sorry, but RUNNNN!!!! And run fast!!! Please be strong and listen to advise given here. You're young, the world is open to you. DO NOT continue in this relationship!!! Nothing but heartache ahead....

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Submitted by stpmom2b on Sat, 02/19/2011 - 5:41am

My DH puts the boys to bed, reads a story, and kisses them goodnight then we have our time alone. They ask to sleep with us and he firmly states that they are big boys and get their own room. They used to call out a lot but they know what's expected now and they are fine. We do let them crawl into beds some mornings to cuddle and watch cartoons. I'm so glad because I love those boys but DH and I both like to have time alone (and quiet!). It's really all about how your DH handles things. He has to be willing to enforce boundaries. My DH has moved away from guilty parenting and the kids are so much better and they still know that he loves them