I was hoping I didn't need to be back here, but the baby momma drama doesn't end.
My ss10 was visiting his Mom this weekend. She called me up the day he was to fly back here demanding to speak to my husband. I told her he was at work, and his job is really stressful, was this an emergency? she then told me my SS10 doesnt want to come back here and hes too scared to tell my husband. i tried to talk reason, stating im sure my husband doesn't want him missing school tomorrow but id try to get a hold of him. My ss10 ended up coming home crying. I told him I'm sorry he misses her. He then told me unfortunately they spent the whole weekend (slept there)at her new boyfriend's house. I asked him if he was hoping for alone time and he said yes. He told me this last time when they did the same thing. And she had only been dating this guy 6 weeks when she decided to use her rare visits with him to introduce them and his kids.

Anyway, i texted her today that my ss10 did miss her, but he expressed he was upset because he wanted alone time with her. Her response was:

If you continue to contact me, I will file another order against you. and this time I won't be nice

she did this 4 years ago when I lived in her state and I called her to ask her to please find his school library books so he could check out new ones. they kept falling off the face of the earth at her house). That's when she filed a restraining order against me. I showed up. they didn't even want to bring it in front of a judge (because the judge had better things to do im sure than deal with this bs.) and it was dropped through mediation. since then we've talked (her doing) cordially. she would also call me up and tell me all about her messed up life. SHe's nuts. anyway, since then my husband moved our family, including my ss10 out of state because of a job. judge thought it was best for him to come with us. even though my husband said he wouldn't take the job if he couldn't bring his son.

Anyway, I didn't see the text so she texted again:
your husband is already in contempt of court (??) don't make it worse for him.

this b*tch abuses the court system. I don't know how many people that have filed at least 4 restraining orders against different people are actually victims. poor thing. anyway, i then responded, which maybe i shouldn't have, but i know i did nothing wrong.

"i am not the one harrassing or threatening. you called me yesterday and seemed concerned about SS10s feelings. I just texted you back the info I got from him, I thought any mother would want to know that. you're going to play court games again? you will not threaten me, my husband, or my family, and that includes SS10.

She then texted back :

"i gave you fair warning."

i then texted back

"stop harassing me :)"

i then called lawyers and the courts and it seems it will be hard for her to do anythin from out of staet. howevever, i think if you have a restraining order against you, you don't have to show up. you just have to comply (I dont want to spend money on lawyers or a plane ticket). I don't know if anyone knows my legal rights. But I also don't want this on my record. I would ideally defend myself. I am studying to be a teacher.

I wish after someone files so many restraining orders (FROM DIFFERENT people) and that have been dropped that somehow that person loses that right for abusing the system. It's such a waste of time and money. I have no urge to contact her so this is so unneccessary. As soon as she hears something she doesn't like, she screams harassment, yet according to my SS10 she gets into altercations with people all the time. Example:

I was at the gym my SS10 and my two boys dropping them off at the daycare. I was in a zone and apparently cut in front of someone. She was very upset and told her kids loudly how rude i was. I immedately looked at her and smiled and said oh im sorry i didn't mean to. I didn't see you there, go ahead! She then said i don't know how you can't see three people! i said well, i have all these kids and you were standing there so i really wasn't paying attention. go right ahead, i would never intentionally cut. my stepson looked at me like WTF. He said I was bein so nice to her why did she have to be so rude. He then said. That happens to my Mom all the time. He then said if his Mom were in my position it wouldn't have been a good turn out. I rest my case!

ANyway, legal help people! I don't want to spend money on this but i also dont want this to effect my record. i wont be a teacher for three years. lawyer said it would be hard for her to serve me from out of state. any advice?