Ok, if she wants to call your FDH daddy, then let her call him daddy!!! I NEVER got to call anyone daddy and I wanted to sooo much! My mom basically dropped me off with grandma and divorced my dad as a baby and kept me away from him. I've known my real dad now for about 19 years and we have a great relationship and I get to call him Dad, so don't worry it all turned out peachy.

BUT HEY...It's not her fault she doesn't FUCKING know her BD, IT'S HIS FAULT and if he has an issue with it then SO FUCKING WHAT? He ain't there and he kicked you out! No loyalty for a "man" who aint there! Give loyalty to the MAN that IS there!!

I'm not drunk or high either. I'm waiting on DH to come in from a trip and Im excited to see him so I'm just awake!

There is no reason to you to EVER talk to the SKANK unless she somehow has pick up and drop off priveleges. Tell BD to tell her to BACK THE FUCK OFF! You stop that bullshit NOW so it won't get worse....you know you need too, LMAO! She's just trying to intimidate you by calling you.

Yes, you can cuss on this site, but some people don't and so unless I'm feeling really super passionate about something I try to be nice....LOL but Im not feeling like being nice....I'm feeling like being supportive!

my son calls my fh daddy he did it on his own and his dad is the same way, won't let go but doesnt do shit for his , let her pick what she wants to do, she has every right to fill that void and he can't say much because he doesn't do anything for her. I have told my son's father that.

I would let your DD call your fiance daddy is she wants to. Not in replace of her BF but in addition. Tell her she is lucky enough to have two daddies. BF doesn't get to see her but he loves her...and shes also lucky to have your FDH in a daddy role. Some people call it a bonus daddy. Continue not to show negativity towards her BF. Kudos to you for that it will benefit you and your child in the end. My SD5 calls me mommy. She calls her StepD Daddy too. Its ok that she has two sets of parents. She loves telling people she has two moms and two dads. It makes her feel special. You also never know when your ex will come around and get his act in gear. My DH didnt have a relationship with my oldest SD until she was 5. It happens. You dont want that bridge burned for her before it is built. Good luck!

He is definitely a piece of work, leaving you when you were pregnant for another woman. However, I am of the mind that a relationship with one's child is not synonomous with whatever relationship, or lack thereof, with the romantic relationship that produced said child. My husband is a wonderful father, but he was a terrible husband to his x. It took both of them to break up their relationship. That being said, it would be a travesty to the child to use that parental relationship as ranson for the shitty romantic relationship and would just be plain vengeful.

I don't see that here in your case. It seems you truly want her to have a relationship with her father. He is just a shitty parent too. I would suggest that while you don't bad mouth her dad, you just let her guide whatever relationship she wants to have with her STBSF and eventually when she grows old enough to truly understand, whatever relationship she wants to have wither her sperm donor.

I am totally with you on not dealing with his girlfriend. She is insignificant in the entire situation. If he isn't man enough to make contact with his daughter on his own, its his loss. If she calls you again, simply hang up. Don't engage her. Treat her like the non-entity she is. It will piss her off way more if you ignore her. I can tell you that from experience. It totally drove my Ex's wife insane. LOL