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doglover1's picture

Well I havent posted much lately. But Ive been dealing with some step crap that I need to share. Not even sure how to say this..but here goes.

I have been living with DH and SD10 for almost 5 years. Mostly when she gets on my nerves...I drank. That was how i coped with it.
Well recently I quit drinking because I am an alocholic.

Now I have to deal with it SOBER. WOW. Its not easy.

Anyone out there relate to this?

SHe really isnt a bad kid.....but at times I just want to scream. I do not have any kids of my own. Maybe its just a kid thing.

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stepsonhatesme's picture

First let me say I'm proud of you for admitting problem an for quoting!!! Second---- yes darling it seems like all kids act like that at some point..

sm2bd's picture

I am an alcoholic also...recovering. I have been sober (and pill popping free)for 2 1/2 years. As a matter of fact, I met my DH in AA. We have been married 2 1/2 months. Let me tell you, I understand! It's tough being sober and having to deal with "life" as it is. I hope i don't offend anyone here, but might I suggest AA meetings? I can't say it will make your situation better, but it might help you face things with out having to take a drink.

TheOtherMom's picture

Alcoholism aside, yes, kids are hard to deal with especially when they are not your own.
I think the key is to open up your heart, try to forgive or understand that this is only a child and is therefore tangible and malleable and capable of growing better (or worse).
If we accept that kids are small people, not objects of our feelings, etc. then I think we learn to respect them more and are more accepting.
THAT being said, I have issues with my skids and notice that much of my issues stems from issues with their mother, their father, or my own insecurities.
I really hope this site is able to help you find peace so you don't go back to that toxic resource in your past.