Have been married now for 10 years. DH has a daughter 18 -(pregnant now for second time before she turned 18 - one miscarriage) and son 22 still living with ex but finally working. Have spent all but one holiday with florida stepfamily. MIL toxic!!! Takes me days to recover from her presence. DH hard working and great husband but parenting unlike what I have ever been able to comprehend. Kids basically raised selves when at our house. Ex with many boyfriends in past including a murderer (in jail for life) whom she had a third child with. 42yr old BIL hasn't worked in years and is on his way to FL (OMG!) - he can't stay here (another argument with MIL I'm sure). MIL has always been jealous and has steered the kids far away from and type of normal behavior i.e. doing well in school, eating right, having hobbies and interests (besides the tv that is). SD is due early december - took the money that we gave her for her wisdom teeth and bought a chihuahua puppy which she couldn't keep alive for 6mos (was killed by ex's mutt who just had her fifth litter - too cheap and thoughtless to have the dog spayed). I have nothing in common with these people - my husband has nothing in common with these people! I have to admit I have lost respect for my husband. I feel like I have to leave just to save myself from the effects on my psyche. I have no interest in my SD's child nor does my husband. It is one bad situation after the other. My husband and I live very quietly out in the country and are in bed every night at nine for a hard day's work. I love my husband's family that lives up north! I think I am at the end of my rope. I have taken to working on the holidays to avoid the disturbia and the holidays are coming. Help!