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Basically sd, turned 6. Dh didn't buy a gift or card so neither did I. I went over board for the 2 girls Christmas because I was feeling mum guilt that it would be the last time before baby was born. Anyway, baby is here now. Apparently I was being talked about and it was "shocking" I didn't get skid anything for birthday, why should I! I don't see BM giving anything for my 2 bio kids. When it was bio 2yr old birthday MIL gave her a set of pyjamas around over a week later. But not if it's skid, new shoes, toys etc. am I being unreasonable here? I know they're all just kids but sometimes it feels like I put all the effort in. But it's came to a firm stop. Dh isn't sure skid is even his, so he wants a dna test. Mentioned it to MIL and she freaked, we're currently living with her as our house is unlivable and waiting for a move. She responded with "it makes no difference she will still be coming here she's ours" and Dh responded with, I'm not being the d!k raising my exs kid and being used as a free baby sitterm MIL takes skid almost every weekend fri-sunday, she's at school, we've got a 2 yr old and a 4 month old and have just found out we're expecting again!! Speak about timing!!!
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DH needs to STFU with his
DH needs to STFU with his mommy. He needs to man up, do his business, and when the picture is clear, tell his mommy what is and how he will deal with BM and their maybe baby (SD).
He also needs to do the balance sheet sit down with his mommy on her disparity in gifting between her known BGKs and the maybe baby ?GK.
If SD is proven to be genetically not his, that shifts things notably. If..... a court will reverse paternity based on BM's lies and fraudulent claims of SD being DH's. Even if the court will correct paternity, then the family/emotional journey will have to be navigated. MIL will not make that easy, of course neither will BM.
As a grandmother
of kids from a divorced family, so with two different mothers, I cannot for the life of me understand grandparents who do not rejoice in the birth of any and all grandchildren and treat them equally. I realize I'm kid-crazy and would love to have a dozen grand-kids, but even so, to reject a new baby is bizarre, because that is what they are doing.
I'm honestly not even sure
I'm honestly not even sure anymore, it just seems to be that skid is favourite and that's it. Bm irks me with how much "she needs a break" it feels as if everyone just panders to her, I'm so sick of it all. I feel so frustrated
Decent people do it right.
Decent people do it right. My mom is super gramma. She and dad both accepted SS-31 on day one. DW and I had been dating a month when mom and dad came to visit my brother and me for the holidays. SS was about 16mos old.
We married the week before he turned 2yo. My niece (30) was born two months after my parents met my DW and SS while we were dating. My son is 18mos older than my niece.
While SS 31 is not their first GK, he is their eldest. Heaven protect anyone who would tell my parents that SS isn't theirs or SS that mom and dad are not his.
Scary thought.
Not your kids
You don't have to buy them anything. If something happens to DH [ death ]. You will never hear or see SK again. DH is the BF. It's his responsibility to buy a gift /gifts for his DD. not a gift card. Just make sure your baby gets more then SD. you are paying CS.