I thought we made it through thanksgiving without any drama, but I guess I was wrong. YSD didn't come to dinner, which I was frustrated about, but her relationship with XH is still fragile from the Taylor Swift debacle in the spring. So I figured she'd just decided she would prefer to hang out with her boyfriend and I didn't give it much more thought. OSD did join me, DD, XH, XFIL, and my parents. We had a lovely evening.

WELL. It turns out that YSD was preparing to amp up the drama and I just didn't know about it. A couple days ago she got upset with XH for another silly reason, and dropped the bomb that she didn't come to Thanksgiving because I "didn't invite her."

Here is the group text exchange about thanksgiving, in early November (group is me, XH, OSD, and YSD):

OSD: Our mom wants to serve lunch on thanksgiving day. What time do you plan to eat at your house?

Me: I'm flexible. We can do 6:30 if that works for y'all? 

OSD: Sounds good. 

YSD: *liked my message*

Me: Perfect. See y'all then.

By the way, between the time of this exchange and thanksgiving, I also talked to YSD on the phone a couple of times and she never mentioned a word about feeling slighted or unsure if she was invited or not. 

Am I crazy, or does that not imply a dinner invitation offered and accepted? I realize now I didn't formally and directly invite either of them. But I guess after 15 years I kind of just thought we were past mailing wax-sealed formal invitations to family holidays. My take is that YSD just wants something to be pissed off at me and her dad for, and this was the best she could come up with. Sigh.