Is this normal?
So I seem to be the only one who finds that husbands ex always calls his parents/sits and chats / etc.
It is not our weekend to have his child but his ex says oh you can have him Saturday for the holiday. Husbands says he may have to woek and she then goes and calls his parents and says I can drop him off and you can have him all day. AND HIS PARENTS Agree!!! She always does this and his parents are always there for her like husband and ex never got divorced. It's been 10.5 years and still the same.
what is this?!? I am at such a loss. We always have to drop things for her or wait around for her - not sure I can deal anymore. And the step son is a total brat to me and so disrespectful to me and my two children and our child we have together- he is 13- acts just like his mom and I tell husband he acts like this becosse he sees you all allow this!
I am never part of decisions but always one that has to take care of him as husband works lots and o always says he needs him time. I don't even want to do holidays anymore becosse od this kid.
I can't recall last time husband did a holiday with my side of family.
and for holidays when he drops off his son he will go insides and talk with all her family.
I find this all so insane. Am I wrong?!
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Grandparents taking the
Grandparents taking the kid, fine, if they want to.
Your husband taking "me time" while you watch his kid? Oh hell no. Stop agreeing to that right now. If he has the kid there, HE parents him.
Normal is different for
Normal is different for everybody. My parents were on good terms with each other and their ex inlaws but they didn't hang out and chat with ex in-laws or each other. They only did drop offs at each other's house what little bit they did that. My brother was driving when they divorced, Dad lived within walking distance and we were allowed to see him whenever we wanted. So theirs wasn't a normal divorce and Mom wasn't a HCBM.
I did find out that my uncle on my mom's side had been keeping in touch with my dad. It may have been after his cancer diagnosis. My mom found out when she called him to tell him that my dad had died and my uncle started crying. So there was contact there but my mom was not only uninvolved, but was unaware. I don't know how my stepmother felt about it.
I know she was worried when my maternal grandfather died and my dad was going to his funeral. I can understand why she felt that way. I think even at 17 I understood why she felt worried. She hadn't met my mom at that point so she didn't go to the funeral.
As far as his son goes, if he isn't there, then his son shouldn't be. I used to look after my SS but he wasn't a disrespectful little brat. He knew better. It's fine for the grandparents to take him. Not unusual at all. If your husband's behavior bothers you then he needs to respect you enough to stop. We could all say it's normal but if it bothers you, then it bothers you. Your feelings matter too and I think what you're feeling is normal.