step daughter has a mouth on her
i have a 5 year old step daughter that will be 6 in august she doesnt listen to me at all she hardly listens to her dad and no its not because of the divorice and its not because of the baby she was like this before she knew i was pregnant she will tell you to f off in a heartbeat and call you a b*tch and has taught my 10 month old those words me and my sons father dont cuss around the children anyways the other night we had to fill the fathers med late one night and she told him shes not going in he cant make her and she told him that your going to drive back home NOW she hits her lil brother tries to stab kids with pencils when i was pregnant she punched me in the stomach weve tried talking to her weve tried time outs popping her butt soap in the mouth standing in the corner she either laughs about it or she will keep crying to she makes her self sick if you make her sit in her room she just keeps kicking the wall i really dont know what to do anymore i dont want my son to grow up acting like that thinking thats how you are sopose to act she has no manners and no respect shes worse when her father is at work and not home i need help fast im going to have her for 3 weeks for summer vaction come june and i dont know how im going to be able to handle her i have problems with my heart and the dr said no stress i tried explaining that to her and she said good maybe youll die b*tch and i wont have to look at you please please please help i cry everytime shes here she used to be sooo sweet in 2008 when her mom wasnt in the picture we have tried proving the mom is unfit due to her drug problem but she passed the test because her friends keep the cleanser in the cars
Sounds like she has anger
Sounds like she has anger issues w/mom being back in the picture now, that's really common. I actually don't have this sitch myself with my SKids, but I do have a kid the same age in my class who is going through the same thing and he is TERRIBLE. She's mad because her mom wasn't there, and now she is, but is totally f-ed up and drug problems=scary, unprdedictable situations for kids. On top of that, though, that behavior is probably working for her at mom's house in that maybe it's the only way she knows how to get attention from her, and it's just carrying over into your house. With my kid, I basically just ignore him. He's said and done some really messed up stuff to other kids and myself, but he really just does it for attention. Mostly, when he says f-ed up things, I just shrug my shoulders and say, "Oh well, sorry you feel that way." Then go about my business. If he's harming someone, he gets a one-way ticket to a separate area, and if he comes out, I put him right back in without saying a word. He's definitely cried to the point to where he's thrown up before, and he's also sat in the corner and laughed and laughed. I gather up the other kids and do activities with them, and pretend like I don't hear him. If he trashes the room, he gets to clean up when he's done. If he pukes, he gets to learn how to clean that up, too. He definitely gets worse before he gets better, it comes in peaks and valleys, but that's to be expected since he thinks if he acts worse, I'll give him attention. When I don't, he realizes that it's not working and stops. Then we have a "what's up with that?" talk about it when he's calmed down, and I'll usually do an activity with him like puzzles or something calm so the tension is broken. It's not easy, I definitely have to consciously make the choice to ignore him and take deep breaths so I don't strangle him, but he's come a long way.