I feel like I originally had good intentions with my stepkids. I knew initially they were a bit wild and that's my fault for not realizing how hard they would be to live with. But I can't change the past now. 
 

I feel like shortly after we all moved in together, their annoying habits and bad behavior started to bother me. I've talked with DH about what he needs to do to fix these issues so my kids and I aren't miserable. He does try but at this point almost everything these kids do bothers me. It's just small things that show how inconsiderate they are. And causing drama like making up lies to HCBM. Telling her how they think DH treats my kids better and how my kids are disrespectful to him. WTH? Talk about disrespect, look at yourself!
 

Just things they've said and done to my kids, complains to them how I'm mean, being so annoying to live with, not thinking of anyone other than themselves and being entitled, even saying they don't need to clean up because someone else will. Make me more and more angry with them. Yet I do try to be polite to them. And I try to disengage. But if something really bothers me I will either directly tell them or tell DH who talks to them. And I think they know if I wasn't here he wouldn't say much.

Now before you attack DH, I really do see him try. And I see him notice things before I need to bring them up. I know he's still partly to blame. But I also know TM is kind of worthless and I feel like everything we try to do to help these kids, she goes against and just tries to be the good guy. Is not much of a parent. Tells them they are never responsible for anything, they are poor, innocent victims. Probably tells them how horrible I am for not letting them be themselves which is not good. They need to act right so I can handle them.

We are at the point where I don't have much interaction with his kids, but I try to sound upbeat when I make small talk with them. I try to make them feel welcome. But if you're going to act inappropriate, go outside or to your room. They recently have been ignoring me a lot, say bye to only their dad when I'm right there too. When I say hi or ask how they are I can just sense attitude. It's more than their ages too. I just feel the tension when they are here. I don't know why I care but I just know they're complaining about how mean my kids are because they don't want to hang out with them (I don't blame them! My kids are polite too but they shouldn't have to spend time with kids they don't even like in my opinion), how I'm so mean because I don't like their annoying behaviors(who does like annoying kids, especially if they're not your own?) and they are bad influences on my middle son by always asking him to play dumb computer games. Even when he's in the middle of playing Legos or something. I don't want my kids to be addicted to electronics like they are.

That's my vent for now. I should be glad they kind of leave me alone now but I think I'll always wish we could all enjoy being around each other more. I want harmony in our "family" but guess I need to accept polite coexistence.