Well I think it's getting better.   The boy is still avoiding me.  He was in the kitchen and when I came downstairs he ran down to his room.   I talked with the girl and DH and things went well.  Offers were made to drive her if needed, we also said we would take her driving.   Then she said she was getting bored with the walks they were taking and wanted someplace new, I offered to take her and him to a local walking trail.  She also mentioned that she was looking at getting a job.  That will get her out of the house, unfortuantely it also means she'll be here for awhile as she has no place to go.  But things are looking better with Her,  I encouraged my daughter to try again with Her and then it would become apparent the problem is Him.   I can't do anything about Him .  

Rules are going to enforced, the rule is no smoking in the house, I smell the smoke , it will be brought up immediately with DH and they will be dealt with, they continue they will be forced to leave as that is a house rule that has been violated.

And shock of shocks, Him just came up and said Hi.  Well well well.