I really appreciate all the honest comments on my

last post. They really helped me see that for every problem I have that stems from my SS, my SO has so many more, and I am so fortunate that she never expects me to pick up the consequences of his actions. 
 

that being said, seeing things from this perspective, have only seemed to bring me comfort. My SS is just so.... MEAN. It really brings my SO down, and puts her out of commission for at least a day. I've accepted that there is little I can do to create change in the situation, because the responsibility to make decisions pertaining to him doesn't fall on me; appropriately. 
 

The new question is, how do I bring joy to her life during these times? It's frustrating seeing her hurt, and feeling like all I can do is reassure her I'm here for the long run. I feel her tiredness, and want to give up, and I worry how that will change our relationship. She's not one to give up, and if does... I feel as though she will forever be a different person. But how can I expect her to kee up her moral when she's being called "insane" or a "crazy b****"? I know it's somewhat selfish to think about our relationship at this time, but ... I love her. And I want to be there.