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Submitted by Newstep on Tue, 04/13/2010 - 6:29pm

I am a BM to three kids been divorced 12 years and am lucky to have a great relationship with my kids SM. I lurked here a couple of years ago when I was dating a guy with kids who had guilt parenting down pat!! I saw so much of what I was dealing with in some of the stories here and decided that I was not ready to deal with that with him.

Present situation is that I am dating a guy with 4 kids three grown and one DD 11 at home. He and his EW split EOW. So far things are going pretty smoothly but I remembered this site from before and thought I would take a look (just in case) so here I am. Thanks

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Submitted by stepmom2one on Tue, 04/13/2010 - 6:47pm

I hope it is all going well for you so far! It is a lot of work being a SM, harder than a BM IMO, but it can be totally worth the relationship(s).

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Submitted by unhappy2happy on Tue, 04/13/2010 - 7:35pm

Newstep, Welcome to ST.. I am glad to hear things are going ok so far.. I absolutely agree with Stepmom2one. It is the hardest job I have ever had, yet in many ways it for me has been rewarding. But I would suggest that you take your time as things can change overnight from wonderful to hell and back.. Many of the wonderful women you will meet here will give you some great advice. And will be there to help you along the way.. I couldn't have made it through the hard times without them.. So I are glad you are here too.

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Submitted by notmyfirstrodeo on Tue, 04/13/2010 - 7:56pm

First and foremost, I am always in awe of those who are adult enough to have a good relationship with their childrens' SM. Kudos to you!!!! I am on both sides of the spectrum, BM and SM and I have not had the opportunity to have any kind of relationship with either my childrens' SM or SD's BM. Both women are extremely insecure and unwilling to move in that direction, and not because I haven't made the offer. I'm not giving up hope yet though.

Again, good for you. Your kids will be better for it. I am also glad to hear your new relationship is going well. Hope it continues to go well for you.