BM has always claimed SS14 has all of these illnesses. She doctor shops until she can make her story plausible enough to get a diagnosis. BM has claimed for a couple years now that SS has EDS (Elhors- Danlos Syndrome). This is a pretty debilitating disease. BM is just sure he has it. She claimed he was tested as a baby and DH forgot. Although he has never had a dislocation, doesn't have bruising issues, doesn't have "pale translucent skin", doesn't have joint pain, etc. Last summer DH and I took him to a major children's hospital's genetics clinic. They determined that he does not have EDS. BM was pissed and within 30 mins of us leaving the hospital she had SS convinced that the doctors there were liars. 

Around Thanksgiving she took him to another hospital out near her to a rheumatologist - he stated that SS didn't meet the requirements to see a geneticist for EDS but since the mother is insisting, he referred them over to the genetics clinic there. Anyway, that appointment is tomorrow. BM hasn't told DH any of this. Through some super sleuthing, I was able to track all of this info down. We talked to the hospital social worker and she has arranged it so that DH will be on a conference call for the appointment. It should last 2 hours. The hospital has stated that since DH does have joint custody that BM cannot stop this from happening. 

DH's main goal here is to make sure that no more false history is entered into his chart and to correct the false history in it already. He also wants to make sure that BM isn't going to try and get some bogus doctors note stating that SS can't go on the cruise for medical reasons. That would probably get her out of the contempt filing if she was able to pull that off. She did get a bogus note for the last cruise and it took a few calls and a ton of stress to have it cancelled out and the doctor coming back and stating that there was no reason for him not to go with us, that he wrote that note becasue BM said she needed it. 

I am so nervous about this call! Part of me wants BM and SS to get mad and walk out. The other part wants DH to be able to address everything in his medical history that is false in front of SS - he probably won’t accept what DH is saying but to hear his father advocate for him will hopefully open his eyes just a little. BM has stated that SS18 is schizophrenic (he is not), that SS14's other 1/2 brother has juvenile arthritis (he does not), that SS14's 1/2 sister is a full sibling (she has some conditions- or not, who knows- that have strong genetic ties to BM tried to use those to say SS14 is the same), DH has substance abuse problems (he does not), BM lists her BF as Father and Stepfather, etc. I just am so happy he is going to have a voice in this appointment! The most important thing that has to be accomplished though is no doctor excuse for this trip that is unwarranted.