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Submitted by Fading on Tue, 03/23/2010 - 11:26am

Apparently I missed something somewhere in the last 24 hours...Lots of negativity filled blogs! I know I know I'll be the first one to be negative lately but! ever since we found out about the house things have been terrific between DH and I! I have completely 'disengaged' (ignored) BM for the last few days and I feel a lot better about myself since seperating from her bad vibes and highschool behavior. I haven't seen SD for about 2 weeks now, which has also made me feel better and given me time to think of how I want to approach some of her behavior. DH and I have been talking about it a lot lately (have had a lot of time to talk whilst packing) and he is starting to realize that SD probably has a severe behavioral problem and is going to talk to BM about getting her into therapy or something to get it diagnosed and hopefully taken care of (medication, constant therapy, etc. Whatever it takes!) Being away from SD and ignoring BM has made me feel refreshed and hopeful that maybe things will be alright in the long run. I guess until the next BM blowup or SD debacle we won't know how I end up dealing with it. I have also recently started seeing a friend of mine again after a severe falling out that ended up being facilitated elaborately by someone else (grrr). This has helped me tremendously by getting me out of the house and doing something by myself without DH or SD, which I really, really needed. I hope everything can continue to go this way! I guess we will see what the future brings.

NOW YA'LL NEED TO GET HAPPY! Smile I want to see sunshine, rainbows and daisies. OOOoooo and some Skittles.

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Submitted by sadstepmom26 on Tue, 03/23/2010 - 12:47pm

My life has been going pretty well too. SDs were gone for all of spring break and I told Dumbo im not going to keep pushing myself to make them all that I want them to be. They'll have to grow into whoever they want to be without me harrassing them all the time, and since I did that I feel like a weight lifted off me. Seems like someone had a signature that said something about sitting on a rainbow and crapping out skittles?? Katrinkie's new pic reminds me of that.lol.

Life is what you make it.

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Submitted by LotusFlower on Wed, 03/24/2010 - 8:35am

Sad...I think that is the biggest thing we SMs have to accept....we did not give birth to these children and often we have come into their lives after their most formative years....and in the cases where these kids are sooooo off track, all we can do is get them on track and see where that track takes them....it took me YEARS to stop trying to make my oldest SD into what I thought she should be....once I did that....I felt free and not overwhelmed anymore...I know EXACTLY how u feel....LOL..now...u just have to hold on to that feeling Smile

A mother is not defined by the "b" or the "s" in front of her name, she is defined by how she handles the "mother" part.....