I'd prefer a NO CHILDREN section. I don't care what people wear/don't wear - I'm there for the water!!

I am torn on this. I take BS8 to a state park near us with a huge public pool during the summer. I used to be all judge judy about swim wear, but last summer I toned it down a notch. I kind of feel like if you can rock a skimpy bikini, then by all means rock it. It probably won't last, you'll have kids, eat a few too many burgers or whatever and you'll be wearing the one piece in a few years and feeling self conscious and chubby. I also used to think that some people had no business wearing a bikini.. or any swimsuit for that matter... but you know, if THEY are confident about their busted can of biscuits and cottage cheese, then good for them right? I can always just look away.

I’m older. Does anyone remember Bodyglove brand swimsuits? Damn... the stuff I used to rock at the pool and beach.

I’m very live and let live when it comes to this. If you have the body, or don’t, and feel comfortable in you own skin, AND want to wear the least amount of swimwear in hot @ss weather? Go for it.

Discussing other people’s bodies, and what they should, or should not wear, especially in or near water, is shamey.

I'm sure you are referring to my recent post. When SD was 16 she came out of our hotel with a thong and a top that barely covered her nipples. I was mortified! I expressed to DH that I felt she should cover up and his response was "I guess that's how they make bathing suits these days". Sorry DH I can take her to WalMart and find her about 20 different suits more appropriate for a family vacation. If you want to wear a suit like that save it for your honeymoon or when your are an adult and vacationing with your friends not with your family. We were with our entire family, my mom, dad, brother, SIL, young nieces etc. What example does that set for the younger kids? It's ok to walk around half naked? Maybe I am old school, maybe I am too modest but leave something to the imagination. I'm ok with teens wearing a bikini, but please be appropriate.

We've really got to do something about all these dangerous hills people are dying on.

I think once you (general “you”) come to terms with the fact that everyone views sex (the act of it)/sexuality/body acceptance differently, it will relieve a lot of worry and stress off of your shoulders. You can want to shield a 16 year old all day long, but believe me, if she is set on wearing what she wants to wear - she will wear it.

It is not a woman’s job to dress accordingly, especially when it comes to swimwear, which we are talking about here, with the sole mission to police the thoughts and behavior of the opposite sex - or prudish women.

I've never had a problem with anyone wearing a bikini until MSD 16 at the time ran around at my family reunion in the skimpiest bathing suit EVER. Like you JUST met my family and the pool is all the way on the other side of the property and here you are where all of the male relatives are and you are just lounging around, or standing in the most sexual poses. It was embarrassing.

Other than that display I do not have a problem with what people wear when they go swimming.

Can we all just take a moment and reflect back on how uninhibited we were at 16? Or 20?

Personally, I wore some pretty skimpy one pieces. Extremely low cut chest. Cut-out sides, high arch in the bum region (it was late eighties, early nineties okay? 8))

I was so damn clueless, I was thinking of the awesome tan I was going to get, opposed to how my male friends were going to react. And it shouldn’t have even been a worry for me to begin with.

The first time I travelled to the Caribbean, I was shocked at the number of European men in speedos, with all their junk and hair sprouting out everywhere.... lol.... being held back by a small piece of fabric that looked like it was about to burst at the seams! But then, I've gotten soft and flabby in my old age and I love the water too much not to flaunt my excess baggage in a bathing suit for others to gawk. Summer's coming, run!

My only real issue is when the ones wearing the skimpy clothing get pissed that people are looking at them. Years ago I watched a late teen/early 20s wearing a stringy bikini go completely ballistic on a couple who happened to look over at her. They weren't staring at her creepily, they were just walking by along the beach and people-watching as they walked. She was screaming about how insulting and sexist it was that they were looking at her "just because I wanted to look sexy for me today doesn't mean I wanted YOOOooooOOU looking at meeeeee!!" (Hard to get the whiny tone in text)

If you want to look sexy for yourself, go for it. If someone's pulling the creepy stare, call them out calmly. But bitching because you are out in public and other people aren't reading your mind and averting their eyes is entitled and stupid.

I say if you’re comfortable with your body, good for you! I am not ready to retire my bikinis, I love them. I personally prefer the ones that cover a bit more (higher waisted bottoms).

Maybe you should get your own pool then??

I'm sorry but I never go to public pools, every one pees in the water, I might as well stay at home and swim in my toilet, I do not like looking at ass and boobs, thus I stay away. There's enough beaches on Mars where we have privacy, I make use of that.

It is every one's right to wear what they want and if they have no self respect by showing too much, then I'm simply going to avoid it...