Public, Private or Cyber/Charter Education???
Hello... I have a BS, 16 and going into his junior year. I also have a BS, turning 15 in September going into her Freshman year along with a SD, 14 also going into her Freshman year.
My daughter no longer wants to go to our public school system. My son, who is entering his junior year would like to remain in the public school. My daughter has mentioned, more than once, she is interested in changing schools or attending cyber school where she can enroll in classes that are more focus on her desired career field. Unfortunately, these courses are not available in our public school arena.
Here is my issue... I have discussed Private and Cyber with my ex and we are considering enrolling my BD in private school. My DH's ex, my SD BM, has no means of income outside of CS, and we try to keep things equal, and do not show favoritism however... private school is a significant expense that I believe should be contributed by both parents. BM doesn't work by choice, doesn't contribute to health care, clothing or other expenses, therefore I would be willing to bet that she isn't capable of contributing to private schooling.
How do we go about sending one child to private and not send the other child? What are the pros/cons of Cyber Charter vs. Private when choosing a curriculum that is tailored to fit the desired needs of the education of the child? Who pays for what?
As long as your ex is paying
As long as your ex is paying for you daughter to attend a private school, it shouldn't be an issue.
If you and your ex agree that a private school is the best option and the two of you are the ones footing the bill, then nothing else matters.
I agree....what you do with
I agree....what you do with your children is none of anyone else's business. Your Skids BM has no say in it, regardless of whether she works, doesn't work or whatever.
If the Skid gets upset, tell him to talk to BM about it.
I did for my BS as I saw fit. I didn't lessen his quality of life because I happen to marry someone with three kids and a greedy XW. Our BM used to get fired up every time I would buy something for my BS. As if I were obligated to do the same for her kids. Ummmm NO BM....I had ONE child for a reason, you chose to have three and can't afford them, not my problem.
You and your ex will be the
You and your ex will be the ones sending your bio to private school. If your husband and his ex cannot afford to send their kid, that is just life.
>>>How do we go about sending
>>>How do we go about sending one child to private and not send the other child?<<
You just do it. Sometimes even intact families have their own children in different styles of school. My coworker has three elemtary-age kids in two different schools.
BM and DH does not have a say
BM and DH does not have a say over your daughter, it's between you and your Ex and if you send her to pvt school so be it, as long as you do not expect your current DH to contribute financially....
Comes the day SD wants to go to pvt school, simply ensure you are not contributing it's up to her parents to make that come true
Thank you. My BD is extremely
Thank you. My BD is extremely highly motivated. A 4.3GPA Student, with no help from me. Loves to learn and wants a better education that is being offered at our public school. I can not say the same thing for my BS, he works hard for above average grades and gets distracted rather easily. My SD is an above average student as well, but has to work for. I can not say that her accountability is there to be chartered student. I can certainly say the BM is not willing active to do the part for my SD to thrive in a chartered program.
Regardless, BM said last night, she wouldn't be able to contribute to SD education cost. SD stated she like the idea on Cyber school but didn't really want to not be around friends... so she is going to remain at the public school.
So I will handle my BD schooling and wait for the boom of "not being treated fairly" from my DH and SD
>and wait for the boom of
>and wait for the boom of "not being treated fairly" from my DH and SD<
your answer to that would be, but I'm not one of her parents :? Not my fault her mother is not interested.... that will shut them up
If your X is on board and it
If your X is on board and it will not impact your marrital finances... do what makes sense. Though I am not one to give a 15yo the choice on where they will go to school. That decision.... is entirely up to the parents.
We sent SS to Military School for his Jr. and Sr. year of HS. We did not discuss it with the Spermidiot. We informed them. They had no say. SpermGrandHag freaked out and was loud about not paying for it. We told her that her thoughts were irrelevent and that there would be no impact on hte pittance that she paid in CS on behalf of her idiot son.
Our situation was simple. We did not have multiple kids with biological variables to deal with. There was no yours VS mine Vs ours drama to deal with. There was only a single blended family opposition clan to deal with and they really had no stroke to be more than a relatively minor PITA.
If you can make it work within your marriage... go for it.