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And so it begins....

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 04/19/2017 - 7:54am

DH hasn't seen OSD in about a year even though she has been living back in our state for the past few months.

I think it has to do with DH not liking her DH who is abusive, a druggie and thief. DH didn't reach out to her and she didn't reach out to him.

DH finally did reach out to her to let her (and the other skids) know that MIL and SIL were in town for a bit and that they could all meet up, which they did.

So they meet up at Super Fun Center for about 2 hours.

Last night the texts start from OSD:

Grandson is crying for you.

Grandson is asking for you.

Granddaughter just LOVED your motorcycle and wants to sit on it again.

Kids are about 2 1/2 and 3 1/2.

I doubt the grand kids who were at a super fun activity kids place really spent that much time bonding with DH that they are now asking about him.

I'm sure DH will fall for it hook line and sinker though. Dirol

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Submitted by Monchichi on Wed, 04/19/2017 - 8:01am

BabyD is 2.5yrs. She spent time with my in laws this weekend. She is quite taken with her grandpa (smart girl) and asked me this morning if she can see grandpa. Don't under estimate them.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 04/19/2017 - 8:29am

I was just thinking... they were there for 2 hours and the kids were most likley in the play area. I do not see my DH at all actually going into the play area and actually playing with them. He most likely sat at a table and talked to SIL, MIL and OSD while the kids played. So I logically they didn't spend that much time together.

Anything can be possible I suppose...

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Wed, 04/19/2017 - 8:23am

Oh Zero...... and so it all begins again....

I hope Dh does not fall for this crap, he can simply tell OSD, send them my love and maybe arrange a play date once a month lol... cheap place where kids can play...

but I think this OSD is taking a fat change - is there not a warrant for her arrest in your state?

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 04/19/2017 - 8:30am

Her DH already called on her warrant and got the cops sent to BM's house to pick her up. LOL! She has court for it at the end of May.

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Wed, 04/19/2017 - 8:52am

dammit...... whisper in coppers ears about the other warrants... maybe they can send her back to that state?

Tell DH is he bends over for her again, he will have to answer to me.... this needs to stop, dang even I know she's never going to leave her drug sniffing wife beater..... and DH should not fall for her crap again

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 04/19/2017 - 9:06am

The warrant is here in our state...so she'll be here. I am really curious if she will get jail this time, since this is her 2nd offense. But yeah her own DH called the cops on her when she left him for him beating her up. And now they are back together again.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 04/19/2017 - 9:25am

It's gross. Very toxic.

Minus the drugs and abuse it very much reminds me of BM and DH.

Getting pregnant, getting married, having kids back to back. Always moving and having no roots or not getting their lives together. Break up, make up.

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Submitted by hereiam on Wed, 04/19/2017 - 9:16am

What does she hope to accomplish, I wonder? Money and gifts for the grandkids that love and miss him?

SD just did this to DH the other day, put her kids on the phone, "We love you, Pawpaw, we miss you." Uh-huh, sure. For the past year, they have been referring to him as "SD's Dad" and SD has never corrected them (they are 6 & 7, so know better, anyway).

There's more to the story but after no arrangements were made to give SD and her kids Christmas gifts this past Christmas (the only time she's concerned about seeing DH), now he's Pawpaw. Hmmm.

DH's daughters have both put him through the wringer, emotionally, so these types of manipulations do not work. Grandkids or no grandkids, he is tired of it.

While it's wonderful when grandparents can be a big part of children's lives, it just doesn't always happen that way, due to certain circumstances.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 04/19/2017 - 9:33am

She wants DH to take her and her kids to eat and to fun places and spend $ on them. I already know.

If DH chooses to have more of a relationship with them, its on him but it's going to be more drama. I think he knows that deep down and that is why he doesn't have the best relationship with them or makes much of an effort right now.

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Submitted by SacrificialLamb on Wed, 04/19/2017 - 9:25am

The kids might be asking for someone. This is normal. What's not normal is: 1. OSD teaching her kids that the world revolves around them when they are asking for someone, or 2. Inflicting guilt on DH because a gkid is asking for him.

My DH is leaving to visit OSD and the gkids tomorrow morning, so I am sure the same crap will pop up when he returns. I will ignore it and just let it die it's own death.