Life has been wonderful. I am finding myself more comfortable everyday with saying "eff you, effers."

I have washed my hands of DH's problems and of SD8. We are still married and doing well, I just don't care about his problems (too much) if they dont involve good decisions, wellness or positivity. For example, if DH wants to go drink, fine. Go drink but my phone is off, you are broke and I don't care. See you tomorrow maybe if the baby and I aren't already out doing something else. The odd thing is, the same husband who told the people he wasn't going to AA because he was agnostic, voluntarily walked in to an AA class that he found for himself. Has been going on his own for about a month.

I put the bills back in his hands. At first he was giving me the money and I would pay the bills. Now that he pays them its like he understands money is finite.

I also told him that we aren't doing Christmas this year. And i mean, he and I aren't doing Christmas. The only person that is getting a gift is Baby9mos. And I'm decking her room out for Christmas. She gets a baby tree with themed wrapped gifts. She and I will bake cookies. She and i will put the star on the tree and he and his daughter can kick rocks. If he doesn't plan a Christmas for his daughter there will be no coat tailing on mine. And i have been ultra sweet reminding him everytime that we are out and I am buying wrapping paper or looking for gifts for baby that he needs to be looking for something.

I also told him this is the last year I will be ferrying across towns on the holidays. I won't be spending hours of my holiday dragging you and your kid around. If you don't want to set up something more reasonable then hike those dusty miles on your own.

DH has been working more hours and is generally away from the house more. I miss him sometimes but then I remember all the problems we were having by being around each other too much and I find it is not as bad.

Even with SD8, I just say ask your father, go talk to your father about it or my all time favorite "if you are bored then i have dirt between the tiles in the kitchen you can take care of". I am not mean to her, i just redirect her to her dad.

Its been pleasant ever since DH realised I wasn't waiting on him anymore. I took my ring off and it is going to take a lot to make me want to put it back on.