How much is enough?
Old member. Now long time lurker. I have a sd9 that I have a great relationship with. All of our step issues stem from how much of an idiot BM is. You guys all know the type, every boyfriend is the "one" moves herself and her 3 kids in with every new guy.
BM has 3 kids total with 3 different guys. My DH is the only involved father. She picks winners and has moved those poor kids 4 times in the last 3 years after moving them across the country to "be closer to family". We are used to it at this point and I can only assume the kids are too.
My issue with the latest move is, she moved an hour from where she was living, changing my SD's school for the 3rd time in 3 years for no reason other than BM got a new boyfriend (same reason each time) and prior to that, SD changed schools almost every year before the cross country move 3 years ago. SD didn't even know they moved. We just finished up our extended summer visitation (10 weeks) and today BM texts us her new address. My SD had no idea. She was picked up from the airport and taken to a new house in a new City.
Also they moved approximately a month ago but no one thought to communicate that. Which is really helpful because i took SD back to school shopping and obviously followed an incorrect supply list because SD is no longer living in that district. BM hasn't gotten the kids enrolled in school yet. (First day is in 10'days) And to top it off I already shipped all of her school clothes and supplies to the old address. Here's hoping I can change the delivery address!
I guess this is mostly a vent but I didn't know if any of you ladies knew if this is something the courts view as normal or beneficial for children? My DH and I have lived in the same area for the last 7 years. I can't wrap my head around how BM thinks this is an ok thing to do.
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That is kind of my question.
That is kind of my question. Does this make a difference court wise? Like would they care? Is it worth it to the courts to separate a child from their siblings? We are in the once bitten twice shy group when it comes to going to court. We went to court years ago because BM was on meth and had her other two kids put into foster care (my SD was visiting us when all of this happened. She was 4 at the time, and even then the courts said it wasn't enough reason to change custody because SD was not present during the removal of her siblings. Trust me when I say that was soul crushing!) so needless to say we have zero faith in our judicial system.
We haven't had to but school
We haven't had to but school supplies for a couple years since Puke doesn't technically "go" to a school. No required supplies. No new clothes needed. No backpack. No gym clothes or shoes.
Even before that DH only got her a new backpack. I used to get her new expensive sneakers but she would lose them within the first few weeks of school so I stopped.
I honestly don't mind the
I honestly don't mind the school supply shopping. I think it's so fun. (I'm ridiculous I know). And shoes clothes etc we don't mind either. My SD takes excellent care of her things and clothes so it's always money well spent.