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sleepingwiththeenemy's picture

My husband has a daughter who have been living w/his mother for the past two years. When I met my husband, he told me that he didnt think he was the girl's father. His mother have been there for the child since day one; the girl's mother told my husband that he wasnt the child's father. Then she stated she said that b she was mad, every time she gets upset she say he's not the girls father. But my husband's mother is so attach to the girl tat nothing else matters. Last summer my husband mother asked him to put the little girl in his last name so she ccan put the little girl in shcool w/o having to wait on her mother. So my husband met the girl's mother at the court house and they had the girl's last name changed. A couple of weeks ago, the little girl's mother told my husband that he is not the father and that he signed all his rights over and the only thing he could do is pay back child support. I told my husband that we are going to get an DNA and regardless of the outcome that we will still treat the little girl the same. My husband was wondering if we should tell the little girl the truth when we recieve the results or just keep things quietly. The little girl is going on 5 this year and still lives with his mother. The dates doesn't add up for my husband to be the father, but the little girl mother told my husband that the lil girl came late when she was first born. It all happen before my time, my main concern now is for us to get the results before the stupid alledged BM try to serve my husband w/hild support paper. Can I get some advice? Thanks

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Constantly_guilty's picture

wow. Ok, I'm not sure I followed all of this but a few clarifications:

1) Is his name on the child's birth certificate as her father?
2) If he just had his name put on the child's birth certificate, when did he sign over all of his rights?
3) If the child has been living with his mother for the past two years, has your husband helped to support her financially with his mother?
4) Why would the birth mother want back child support if she is not even caring for the child?

It seems to me that your DH would have a pretty good case for fighting any claims for back child support if a) he is not the child's biological father and b) the child hasn't even been under her mother's care for the past two years.

sleepingwiththeenemy's picture

DH put the child n his last name so his mother can enroll her n school w/o waiting on da BM. Da BM stated tat DH signed ova all his rights{as for as child support} when he put the child n his last name. DH mother has been keeping da child sine she was born but within da past two years the child has been settled w/DH mother. Yes we help financially and always have; DH mother agree w/da BM on almost any matter so da BM wont take da child away from her. Da BM does stupid Stuff like tat when she gets upset; she always claim she is bipolar{lol}. Its alot of stuff DH n his mother puts up with tat I won't n will not tolerate. DH goes along w/his mother bc his mother is so attahed to da child tat it will kill her if da BM takes her away.

CadysMommy313's picture

If anybody deserves cs is your DH's mother and not from your DH from the BM especially if your DH is not the BF

Anon2009's picture

I agree with CadysMommy. The people who deserve the CS are your DH's mom and SD.

Are you sure this is a really good idea? If the little girl is happy and likes living with your MIL, why do anything? My concern is that if you do a DNA test then the little girl can get taken away from MIL by BM. Does MIL have official sole custody of her?

BTW MIL= mother-in-law

onehappygirl's picture

Can I give you a tiny suggestion? Please don't get upset. I would like to read your blogs and give you some advice, but I'm having a hard time understanding "text speak." If you could use full words, that would really help.
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CadysMommy313's picture

I totally agree with your "order." SP's opinion always get pushed clear to the end of the line...even behind people who really don't matter...LoL

Amazed's picture

I had to crack up @ #114 Smile that was too funny

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